Your Most Embarrassing Sex Questions Answered

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Silly or not some of these questions get asked so often that it makes us believe they are sincere. So, in keeping with our mission of keeping you informed and safe we have put together a list of the questions that have spooked us the most over the past 18 months with honest, to the point, no nonsense (and sarcasm free) answers.

Your Most Embarrassing Questions

Can I get pregnant the first time I have sex?
Yes, absolutely, most definitely!

Every time you have sex you run the risk of getting pregnant. While various birth control methods can decrease your chances there is no 100% effective form of birth control and all are subject to user error. The only way to guarantee you will not get pregnant is to abstain from having sex.

What is meant by the phrase “unprotected sex?”
The term unprotected sex means sex without protection against pregnancy and/or STIs. It is having sex without using birth control and STI protection.

At what age is a guy able to get a girl pregnant?
Sex is not like driving or voting, there is no age at which it can happen. If you are a guy and you are having sex, regardless of your age, you can get a girl pregnant. Age is not a reliable way of determining if a guy is able to get a girl pregnant.

At what age do I have to start using birth control when having sex?
Again, this is not a matter of age. If you are sexually active you must use birth control and you should also use some sort of protection against STIs.

Not all forms of birth control offer STI protection.

If a guy is a virgin can he get me pregnant?
Yes. Male virgins can get a girl pregnant and female virgins can become pregnant the first time they have sex.

What is meant by “penetration?”
Penetration refers to the penis being inside the vagina.

If a guy ejaculates near my privates but not inside me can I get pregnant?
In theory, the answer to this question is yes.

Anytime sperm gets anywhere near a girl’s privates she can become pregnant although it is less likely to happen without penetration. Pregnancy is less likely to occur under these circumstances but it is possible.

If a guy ejaculates on my underwear/over my clothing can I get pregnant?
In theory, the answer to this question is yes. Anytime sperm gets anywhere near a girl’s privates she can become pregnant although it is less likely to happen without penetration. Pregnancy is less likely to occur under these circumstances but it is possible. Clothing is very porous and is not considered a barrier method of birth control.

If the girl doesn't have an orgasm can she still get pregnant?
Yes, a female’s orgasm is not a necessary part of becoming pregnant and there is enough sperm in the pre-ejaculatory fluid of males to cause a pregnancy.

Can I get pregnant from giving oral sex?
No, you cannot get pregnant from giving or receiving oral sex but you can get an STI including HIV/AIDS.

Can I get pregnant from receiving oral sex?
No, you cannot get pregnant from giving or receiving oral sex but you can get an STI including HIV/AIDS.

Is there a position we can have sex in that will guarantee I won’t get pregnant?
No, there is not a safe-sex position.

You can get pregnant from every possible sexual position that involves genital-to-genital or genital-near-genital contact.

Is it true that you can’t get pregnant if you have sex in water?
No, this is not true. Water is not effective birth control and does not wash away sperm.

If I douche right after sex will it prevent pregnancy?
No, douching will not prevent pregnancy and some studies suggest it may actually increase your chances of contracting an STI.

If I have sex on my period am I safe from pregnancy?
No, pregnancy can occur during your period.

Are two condoms better than one for protection from pregnancy/STDs?
No, two condoms offer LESS protection as the friction between them makes breakage more likely. Only use one and use it exactly as directed on the package.

What are STDs? 
STDs are sexually transmitted diseases, that is diseases and viruses that you can contract through sexual contact.

Many STDs are with you for life; once you get them you never get rid of them. Some STDs can cause serious future health problems like infertility or cancer. Some STDs, like HIV/AIDS are presently incurable and fatal.

What is AIDS/HIV? 
AIDS/HIV is one of the most devastating communicable viruses of the 21st century. It is a deadly virus that can be transmitted when contact is made with an HIV or AIDS infected person's bodily fluids. The virus itself is called HIV and AIDS is what the virus is known to become. They are one and the same in the sense that you must first have HIV before you can develop AIDS. However, just because a person has HIV (this is known as being HIV positive) does not mean they will develop AIDS. There are people who have been HIV positive for over a decade with no signs of developing AIDS. HIV is a tricky, unpredictable virus that affects your overall quality of life even if it never becomes full-blown AIDS. It is important to note that HIV does eventually become AIDS in the majority of infected people but there are exceptions and right now medical science cant explain the random way that HIV seems to affect people. There is no way to know how HIV will play out for any one person, it is unpredictable but always life-altering and if you develop AIDS it is fatal. It is currently believed that close contact is needed to contract HIV and that it is not transmitted through casual interactions like shaking hands or hugging. HIV cannot survive outside of a host body for very long and therefore direct contact with an infected person's fluids and the bloodstream of an uninfected person is needed in order for the virus to be transmitted. The most common ways that HIV is transmitted is through sexual activity, sharing of drug paraphernalia, and blood-to-blood contact via open wounds. Condoms can decrease your risks but they do not offer foolproof 100% protection. The only guarantee against contracting HIV is to totally avoid high-risk activities.

If I'm on the pill am I protected against STDs/HIV/AIDS? 
No.

The pill only protects against pregnancy. It does not protect you from HIV/AIDS or any other STD.

Where do I get the AIDS vaccine? 
You can't be vaccinated against HIV/AIDS. There is no such thing.

Does the morning after pill also protect me from STDs/HIV/AIDS? 
No. Emergency contraception, also called "the morning after pill", only protects against unwanted pregnancy. It does not protect you from HIV/AIDS or any other STD.

Is it true that you cannot get an STD if you have sex during your period? 
This is not true. You can get an STD any time you have unprotected sex. Sex during your period may even make transmission of STDs easier as blood is involved.

I've heard that date rape drugs, like GHB, offer protection against pregnancy, is this true? 
Absolutely not. Date rape drugs do not protect you from anything. When you have ingested a date rape drug you are not only at risk of being sexually assaulted but you are in no way protected from pregnancy, STDs, or HIV/AIDS.