Winning the Gemini Man

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The Gemini man flirts indiscriminately because he's naturally so social and curious.

It's not hard to make his acquaintance, and he has loads of friends. But it's not a cakewalk to become his significant other.

Very often, his flirting is his way of playing and there's nothing serious behind it. Gemini men are players in different senses of the word. They are playful and often lighten the mood with their hilarious comments and ways.

Geminis are anxious though, with high strung nervous systems. You might detect that a Gemini likes you if his nervous tick is activated.

It's a sign, too of overthinking and instability. A dark side Gemini knows what to say to manipulate others, and appear to be someone they're not.

He may date many at one time, giving him a reputation of being a bit of a player, as in playing around or playing the field. Especially when young, he prefers to keep things casual and light. Keep this in mind if you're looking for marriage material. He's the eternal bachelor reveling in his freedom of motion.

The Sampler

To understand Gemini is to see it in the Zodiac, after Aries and Taurus. Gemini is the first mutable sign, and after the deep stability of Taurus, Gemini is the casting about of ideas and forms. There's a soul need to travel light, to experience life from many angles.

Gemini man then has a bit of the dabbler in him, and the desire to sample from the smorgasbord of life.  That makes him a lover of variety, in love and life.

He is enamored with creatures who have many sides to their personality. He adores a partner who is different with each encounter. If that's you, then there's a 'life is a game' to be played, not figured out, quality to your togetherness. You can find steadiness in knowing that there's freedom to move and mutate (mutable) — and inhabit many selves.

First Dates

He's a whirl of activity when first dating. He'll know all the best places to go and what's happening around town. He'll want to know everything about you and is an easy conversationalist. To impress, he'll tell funny tales or show off his observations about art, culture, politics, people. You'll win his heart if you genuinely think he's smart and hilarious.

He's on the move, so it helps if you're adventurous too. He'll come up with new things to do, but if you are hooked up, it doubles the fun. Scan your weekend listings for something out of the ordinary; he's lit up by the exotic or eclectic. If you live in a small town, try improvising as a spontaneous twosome.

One Gemini guy I know and his date wore all red and ate red food on red plates. Be absurd and on the fly, and see what happens.

The Gemini guy's turn off is a closed, rigid mind. He changes his own mind a lot, which makes him seem sketchy. But it's the nature of Gemini to sift and sort, and rearrange the picture.

To share a rapport with him, you'll need to be a free thinker, willing to see things from many angles. This is crucial for a love connection with this air sign, since he'll want to share a running commentary that spills out unedited, and is always changing.

How will you know if he's interested? If he confides in you, that's a sign that he's showing his more reflective side. You might be his touchstone, the one that's a friend, but over time becomes more. There's a magical way that stability is created over time, through trust and with the freedom to change.