Hobbies Astrology How to Win the Heart of a Scorpio Man Share PINTEREST Email Print lamyai/Getty Images Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated October 05, 2018 The Scorpio guy is secretive, but not for long as his desires expose him and his healthy libido. He's drawn to old-fashioned feminine mystique, where each meeting is a chance to unravel the package. What else is there to know about winning the heart of a Scorpio man? Read on. Tips for Dating a Scorpio Man Scorpio in love is more about innuendo and meaningful looks than overt flirting. A paradox here is that while sexual, the Scorpio man likes things to unfold in a slow seduction. If he's wary, it's because once he commits, he's usually "all in" and it's hard to separate. Scorpios are legendary for intense break-ups that last for years, with epic drama involving rage and revenge. One Scorpio love tip is to keep it casual and let him share personal details on his own time. If he's interested in you, he'll get in touch. That's Classified The Scorpio man is a fortress of secrets, guarded by eyes ready to pounce on any transgressor. It's best to stay on the outer edges with questions about his interests, such as movies, travel, and food. He may be "reading" you on an intuitive level, sussing out who you are. You'll win points up front if you telegraph that you respect his privacy. If you're one that talks when nervous -- and who isn't nervous on first dates -- try your best to control it. Scorpios lose respect for someone that tells all, especially if you divulge your secrets too soon. If drinking makes you have loose lips, consider keeping your intake moderate. The Scorpio man admires someone in control of themselves and will be turned off by sloppy drunk behavior. The judging eyes of Scorpio man can be intimidating if you're not confident with yourself. But if the ice breaks and he starts to warm up, you'll be glad you hung in there. He enjoys talking about local mysteries, like hauntings, or enigmas of human behavior. He'll appreciate frank discussion about the dark side of life, as that's his territory. Finding the Rhythm Getting closer to Scorpio is an all-encompassing experience. It's hard at first to know if he likes you or not. But if he's calling and wanting to get together, that's a sign that it's still "on." He's a serious kind of guy, so going deeper with him often means there's no turning back. His is a fixed sign, and his attention can feel like a fixation! He can turn nasty if he thinks he's been treated in a casual way. But some Scorpio men can't get over their distrust of people in general, so things may go south for reasons beyond your control. Scorpio men do best with those that want soulful relationships but can hold their own with a powerful mate. Scorpio's traditional ruler is Mars and its modern ruler is Pluto. He's got deep reserves of both physical vitality and capacity for diving deep psychically. What's nourishing for Scorpio is to give of themselves wholly, and experience major cycles of change together. You'll know if your connection has caught that groove, and the trust is there to deepen the bond. Seriously Sexy The Scorpio man has a heightened sensuality that's often veiled behind that mask of self-control. He is a water sign, which means he's emotional and moves on his feelings. You can hold his attention with subtle overtures that give just a tantalizing taste of what's to come. He wants to be teased by a sexually confident woman, so the pleasure is drawn out. He lives for the building of sexual tension. You'll find some tips on soothing his emotional soul and cultivating the water element. You can create that atmosphere by dressing seductively with alluring extras like fragrances. Scorpios are all about timing. If you have a compatible rhythm, you'll know when to touch Scorpio's arm or give the signal that you're open to their advances. But keep it private, and that means no big shows of PDA at his workplace. Being discreet in public can allow tension to build, for those times alone. He'll appreciate a woman who saves something for their intimacy that's just for their eyes and ears only.