Hobbies Astrology Winning the Heart of an Aries Woman Tips for Leading this Hard-Headed, Warm-Hearted Sign to Love Share PINTEREST Email Print Paper Boat Collective/Getty Images Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated May 06, 2019 Aries is a sexy sign because it embodies confidence. It's easy to be swept up by the force of their powerful energy and contagious enthusiasm. The lady Ram admires confidence and competitive spirit. She's drawn to partners who are as physical as she is, preferring men of action to men of words. Aries women are imbued with "yang fire." She'll gladly match wills and wits with any male—alpha or otherwise—who crosses her path, and yet, she secretly yearns for a lover who can make her feel powerfully feminine. Winning her love takes the special skill set of a man who is both willing to lead and to follow. Keep it New The Aries woman is a risk taker who thrives on the sexual tension of early romance. Novelty thrills her, and when it comes to new love, she hits the ground running. Hers is a cardinal sign, meaning she's an initiator. If she wants to take the lead with your romantic itinerary, you'd be wise to let her. First dates featuring an activity she's never tried before—anything from paddle boating to sailing or ballroom dancing—will bring out the best in her. And since Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, as your relationship progresses, make sure to include as many "firsts" as you can in order to keep things fresh: First time eating Tibetan food. First time on a road trip. First time making love blindfolded. Not for the Faint of Heart Aries women are impressed by passion and action. She admires those who do for themselves, so the self-made man (or woman) is very appealing. You can pique her interest with tales from your best moments. Tell her about times when you took a risk or fought and won; just don't go overboard and embellish because she has pretty much zero tolerance for insecurity. The Aries woman is looking for a partner who is heroic, so trying to bond with her by revealing your vulnerabilities is a bad idea. (Some signs like to "mother" their men, but Aries isn't one of them.) If you're falling for a Ram girl, be prepared to be on your toes. Her nature is to provoke and test limits. If given a chance, she'll even play on your weaknesses. If you can take it, her gibes will feel like teasing, but to more sensitive souls, it's enough to put you on the defensive. An Aries in love is ardent, impulsive—and quick to flame out if you don't properly fan the flames. The Aries dark side manifests in an urge to stir the pot of conflict and to vent frustrations. It can get pretty ugly. (This is especially tough on water signs, whose long memories can't easily let go of a slight.) That said, Aries is who she is, so if you can't take the heat, it's best to get out of kitchen—but if you're up for the challenge, a romance with an Aries woman will be filled with adventure, fierce love, excitement, and the feeling that it's always new. A Study in Contrasts Many (Sun) Aries women like to do things typically considered "masculine." She's the one you'll find hanging with the guys, and when it comes to sports, she's an avid competitor rather than a cheerleader. But as with any sign, the Aries woman defies stereotype. For every Aries kickboxer or roller derby queen, there's an Aries artist or poet. The common denominator is that whatever she's into, she wants to be the best at it. To win her heart, you must admire her gutsy ways, and encourage her to shine big. The Aries woman is a tease. She's not above playing mind games. She may try to make you jealous to remind you of what you've got or to make you up your emotional game. Unfortunately, what's sauce for the gander is not sauce for the goose. Aries' big ego makes it hard for her not to take things personally. If you show signs of straying—even if only to make her jealous—she'll likely launch a pre-emptive rejection strike to save face. A Worthy Opponent Makes the Ideal Mate The best partner for an Aries woman is someone who has their own big dreams and the wherewithal to make them happen. She needs a man who is confident in his masculinity and isn't freaked out by a woman who puts her own sense of self front and center. If she suspects you want to control, smother or any other way put out her fire, she'll be out the door so fast it will make your head spin. The fiery nature of Aries makes them animated and self-directed. She's passionate and will come alive if you are, too. She responds well to praise but isn't big on sentimental, emotion-laden overtures. Because she likes to challenge herself as much as she likes to challenge others, she's always exploring new places and pushing the envelope of her comfort zones. In fact, Aries gets depressed when denied challenges and will be grateful if you set up scenarios—even sexual ones (think post-fight "make-up sex")—that lead to catharsis. The Aries woman is quick to anger but also quick to let her anger go. She's generous with those she loves and thrives on inspiration. If she's bored, it will show, and that's a slippery slope to an abrupt end. As a result, she's willing to make drastic moves to keep the relationship from becoming stagnant. Aries lovers have an inherent instinct to renew and reinvigorate their relationships, and being with one can help other signs learn to stoke the fires as well.