Why Do People Fall out of Love?

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Falling in love with someone is a wonderfully miraculous feeling. When you're in love, you can't stop thinking about this person, you want to spend every moment with him or her, and you feel so happy, thankful, and lucky to have this special person in your life. But sometimes people fall out of love. And even though they once felt so deeply passionate about this person, these feelings can fade away and disappear.

Falling out of love is actually not uncommon, as there are many different reasons why your loving feelings for someone can change and the love you once felt for him or her goes away. 

1. You're Fighting All the Time

One of the main reasons why people fall out of love is that they just can't seem to agree with one another on anything. Whether it's larger issues such as shared values and life choices to smaller issues such as where to go for dinner, you and your partner simply can't come to an agreement. And when there's no common ground between the two of you, your mindsets are diametrically opposed to one another, and you're bickering the majority of the time that you spend together, it's not unusual that your loving feelings for this person would change. Even though you may care about him or her, truly loving this person can be challenging when you no longer see eye to eye. 

2. You're in Love With Someone Else

Another reason why people fall out of love is that they've fallen in love with someone else.

And if you find yourself constantly thinking about another person who isn't your partner and have intense and loving feelings for him or her, sustaining your love for your partner can be challenging. When your thoughts are consumed with the idea of someone else, then falling out of love can be part of the process that deepens your feelings for this other person.

When you're focusing your loving feelings elsewhere, it can be hard to still truly love your partner simultaneously.

3. Your Relationship Has Been Tested

An additional reason why people fall out of love is that they've faced hardships and difficulties that have strained their relationship with one another. For example, if you're dealing with the loss of a job or the loss of a family member, these emotional burdens can end up shaking the bonds that tie you and your partner together. In some instances, couples fall out of love because they just can't seem to weather the storm together as a team. And these kind of financial and emotional strains end up breaking their connection and ending the love between the two of them.

4. You Feel Unappreciated

One of the key reasons why people fall out of love is that they don't feel appreciated, respected, or valued in their relationship. For instance, if your partner no longer compliments you, shows any gratitude, or even acknowledges your accomplishments or work, it can be hard to feel truly loved. And if you sense that you're taken for granted, constantly deprecated, or even have feelings that you're disposable in your relationship, this can cause your love for your partner to diminish.

When you're treated poorly by this person, his or her words and actions can end up making you resent him or her. And by no longer feeling important, valued, or even truly loved by your partner, the loving feelings you once had can fade away. 

5. You Were Betrayed by Your Partner

Another fundamental reason that causes people to fall out of love is that their partner betrayed their trust. Whether your partner was unfaithful to you, had an emotional affair, or never keeps his or her word, the love often goes away when the trust is gone. It can be challenging to still love someone after physical or emotional infidelity, as you may question his or her true feelings about you. It can also be difficult to feel that you can confide in this person, count on him or her, and feel safe and secure in your relationship with one another.

Trust is a cornerstone of falling in love, and when that's severed, falling out of love is often the consequence.