Why Am I Gay?

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Question: Why Am I Gay?

Answer: If only we could explain the things we feel inside. It's like you wake up one day and everything is normal—life, schools, family, and your job are all the same. And then what seems like overnight you in some way discover that you're attracted to other guys. It could be a physical, mental, or emotional attraction, or a combination of all three. You can't explain it. It feels just as natural as all of your other feelings. Just like you can't explain why you like a certain sport or can't live without a certain song. Certain feelings are just on a level that only you understand, even if others want you to explain it.

Sexual orientation is a natural part of who we are. Some of us are born straight; others gay, lesbian, bisexual or gender-queer. Many sexuality researchers and scholars have tried to explain homosexuality, but for just as many studies that claim our environment makes us gay, there are opposing studies that say that we're born this way.

There are, according to the American Psychological Association, "probably many reasons for a person's sexual orientation, and the reasons may be different for different people."

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