Hobbies Astrology Learn 5 Effective Strategies for Attracting the Virgo Man Have Poise and Patience if You Want to Land a Virgo Share PINTEREST Email Print VANDAL Photography / Getty Images Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated May 03, 2018 A Virgo man is less likely to go for glitz, sexy glamour, and dripping romantic gestures. Moreso, catch that Virgo by being attuned to his likes, practice restraint, and nurture an endearing friendship if you want to move forward in your relationship. Typical Virgo A Virgo prizes virtue, being considerate, and sincere. And if you are a love match, then you can count on him valuing you, even when you're all wrinkly, and seasoned by time. A Virgo man wants a real girl (or boy), that does not hide behind an avatar or false facades. A Virgo in love is particular and wary of attachment until he is sure that you are the right one. Virgos are process-oriented, so a trick to getting close is to be there in the now, in the thick of the moment. If you are naturally someone who enjoys the journey as much as the destination, then you are sure to win the Virgo man. Check out the top five ways to attract yourself a Virgo. Less is More The Virgo man is notoriously deliberate, and a man of moderate appetites. One reason for this is that he has a heightened sensitivity both physical and mental. He is attracted to those who take care not to bite off more than they can chew. Similarly, a thoughtfully prepared dish at a known, calm place is favored over the all-you-can-eat buffet. And, if you are enjoying a nice, quiet, restful dinner together, leave some space in the conversation for the frantic Virgo to relax their mind and settle down. Refined Sensibility The Virgo earth sign is a relentless observer and will notice very minute changes from one day to the next. He prides himself on being watchful, and aware of what is happening in the physical world. The right girl (or guy) values this attentiveness. If he's a good guy, you might even welcome remarks that have shades of being a critique. His views are helpful. Be alert to the beauty of the small, everyday things. Show this by telling a story from your day or by taking extra care in preparing a meal. Be observant of his likes and dislikes, and surprise him with your thoughtfulness. Guiding Partnership Virgo is a mutable sign, and one way to understand him is to realize that he's all about adapting to what's happening within him and outside him. On top of that, as an earth sign, he is more reactive than active. A Virgo man likes to spring into action, to fix things, and to be helpful. So, to light his fire, ask his advice or let him tinker with your broken gadget at home. He is drawn to the poise and social grace of a confident partner. He's not looking for a boss or master. He is naturally at ease when he's accompanied by a strong guiding hand in the twosome. For this reason, make suggestions for dates, and be clear about the dress code, how much it will cost, and the timeframe for the evening. Natural Beauty A lifelong quest for a Virgo man is to be at home in his own skin. The less artifice, the better. He will admire a person who is attuned to the power of the natural world and being connected. He is attracted to a healthy glow that shines from the inside out. He is impressed by those who live a holistic lifestyle. And he is a fan of keeping it simple and uncluttered. If you want to seduce his senses, practice good personal hygiene with a subtle overlay of natural aromas. Bring nature indoors with fresh flowers, greenery, and found treasures. Let his earthiness strengthen your own footing and find balance with his earth sign. Steady As She (or He) Goes The Virgo man is thrown off when someone rushes him with breathless passion. He is not impressed by delusions of grandeur and fantasies of escape. He prefers a long getting-to-know-you phase, that begins organically. Familiarity does not breed contempt, in his case, it warms him up slowly to intimacy. If your relationship begins with friendship, then you are laying the groundwork for something lasting. An attraction that has the right setting to grow slowly is likely best.