How to Speed Date

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While you may be used to meeting people through dating apps and websites, speed dating can also be a great way to meet potential love interests in your area. In fact, while app daters can often go through a long messaging process with a person of interest before actually meeting IRL, speed dating can enable you to meet people instantaneously and see if you have an immediate attraction and connection.

How does speed dating work? If you’re interested in speed dating, it’s important to have a general understanding of how the process works. Firstly, when you arrive at a speed dating event, which is typically held in a restaurant or bar, you’ll be given a sheet of paper as well as a name tag. You’ll then sit and spend approximately five to seven minutes talking to different potential matches one-on-one. And after each conversation, you’ll circle “yes” or “no” on the piece of paper, indicating if you’re interested in seeing this person again in the future or not.

At the end of the event, which usually involves meeting eight to 12 possible matches, you’ll turn in this piece of paper to the program’s leaders, and if mutual interest is expressed by you and any of the people you met, you’ll receive an email the next day with their contact information. From that point, the ball’s in your court to turn your speed date encounter into a real courtship.

Does speed dating actually work? Yes, there are many couples in successful and long-lasting relationships who met at a speed dating event. In fact, the concept of speed dating is based on the idea that you can tell right away, practically within minutes, if you’re interested in someone romantically.

And rather than wasting your time on a long, drawn-out date where you already know that you don’t want to spend any more time with this person, speed dating allows you to meet multiple people in a short period of time. In addition, rather than going on a date with someone you messaged on an app and whose basic information you already know, speed dating allows you and the person you’re meeting to have a clean slate and a fresh start, free from prior contact or preconceived notions.

How do I choose a speed dating event? If you’d like to attend a speed dating event in your area, you can find many different companies and services hosting these get-togethers simply by searching online. And in many cases, you can find events that are tailored for specific interests and pastimes. For example, there are speed dating events geared toward people with certain religious beliefs, occupational pursuits and who fall into a particular age range.

It’s also important to note that speed dating events can typically cost around $30.00 to $40.00 per person, depending upon which service you choose. However, in many cases, this cost also includes other perks provided by the locale where the event is being held, including specialty drinks, appetizers and/or desserts.

 

How can I make speed dating a success? If you’d like your speed dating experience to be rewarding in every sense, you should keep in mind these three crucial tips.

1. Keep an open mind. When going to a speed dating event, it’s important that you keep an open mind and give everyone a fair shot. For instance, if you find that you really like the first person you talk to, it’s important that you don’t automatically rule out every other individual you meet from that point forward. By giving everyone a chance, you’re upping your chances of meeting someone special.

2. Have a positive attitude. Since you never know who you’re going to meet at these events, it’s important to approach the situation in an upbeat way. In fact, speed dating can be fun and exciting in and of itself, whether you meet someone or not, so it’s highly important to have that mindset from the outset.

3. Feel good about yourself. With this in mind, it’s important that you go to a speed dating event believing in yourself. And while you may feel nervous or anxious about having to talk about yourself to complete strangers, you’ll be surprised how easy it is to have an interesting conversation in this fast-paced atmosphere—and it’s even easier when you hold fast to how awesome you truly are.