Hobbies Astrology Virgo and Libra Love Compatibility Rules of Engagement Share PINTEREST Email Print Leren Lu/Getty Images Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated May 25, 2019 Virgo and Libra are very particular and both have a keen eye when it comes to reading others. If there's a hint of something special, it'll happen right away. A good start here is a short and non-committal meetup — a cocktail, coffee, or a place with lots to observe and comment on. Dipping your toe in, rather than committing to a long night, is the way to go. Timing is everything with Virgo. Less is more with this sign, at least in the getting-to-know-you phase. Libra is known for being fast out of the gate, if they're interested, and putting on the charm. Relationship Characteristics Libra wants to be admired wholeheartedly, and for Virgo to hang on their every word. Libra comes alive in the gaze of an admirer. From the get-go, then, we hit a snag. Virgo is not one to show effusive affection, and definitely will not stroke anyone's ego just to win their favor! For the love to seed, there's got to be a meeting of bright minds in the moderation that Virgo likes. Consider the Virgo's system as refined and sensitive. They have to digest all their experiences slowly. If Libra is truly interested, they'll want to tune in to the very specific tastes of Virgo and suggest low-key dates without a lot of social pressure to perform, to look or be a certain way. Libra is a social creature and puts people at ease, but can also be a big tease. Libra is provocative mentally, at times, being a cardinal air sign. Watch a Libra push the edge of a conversation by any means necessary, and you see that cardinality (initiating) in progress. Both love to show off their skills in the art of conversation. Virgo has a gift for analyzing but might grow too nervous if always thrown off-balance by the forward-leaning Libra. And if Virgo is put to a test of coolness within a wider circle of friends, they'll likely go into hiding. Virgo is by nature a hermit but comes alive with people who meet their standards. Often, they're attracted to people who give them a lot of space while respecting their need to freak out occasionally and plan everything to the minutia. Virgo is already relentless on themselves with the pressure for perfection. If they sense Libra is underwhelmed by their steady, understated personality, they might find it hard to go further with it. Balance Virgo admires Libra's clear mind and drive for balance in all things. Both are aware of dating dos and don'ts, and will try to show up on time, make thoughtful suggestions and offer love trinkets at appropriate times. They're a picture of refinement, if somewhat cool in their show of affection. Virgo likes to keep their business private, so Libra will need to curb the tendency to tell all. A Virgo that's pressed for personal details will shy away. This is another difference since Libra is the social gossip of the zodiac. Many of the insights of Libra are brilliant, but Virgo could lose trust, wondering when it's their turn to be lampooned. Dates are a chance to talk, which they both love to do, to the point of talking over each other. But Libra glides easily over topics, while Virgo seeks to analyze and come up with precise thinking on the matter at hand. Dutiful and Devil-May-Care Virgo's analytical mind trying to wrangle Libra's thoughts are like the Lilliputians tying down Gulliver. With a Virgo mate, Libra gets to see life from a different perspective: the ground. Libra resents being forced to focus on the minutiae, and Virgo finds Libra's lightness and devil-may-care attitude frustrating. Another area that gets sticky is in what's valuable. Often Virgo is more utilitarian than Libra, who chooses what's pleasing to the eye. A Virgo who wants everything in its place, for example, could store things in plastic containers, labeled and stacked. The aesthetically-oriented Libra screams out, "Oh my eyes!" at the offense against beauty. A compromise could be other kinds of storage solutions, like wicker bins or baskets, or vintage trunks. Micro and Macro When these two are in sync, they've got the big picture and details covered, and both benefit. Virgo helps Libra plan out the steps to realize a dream that's still just a concept. Libra lifts Virgo out of the trap of micro-thinking to offer sweeping vistas. But when life goals are different and they're ready to move on, it's hard to shift the focus together. Virgo makes sure the household is kept orderly, and Libra supplies the artful finishing touches. Libra knows how to create an atmosphere of beauty, like flowers or just the right decor accents. Virgo's desire for calm is compatible with Libra's need for a serene nest. In the quest for wholeness, Virgo sets a daily example for Libra that has a grounding effect on this airy character. And Libra reminds Virgo to stop working and enjoy some leisure time. Virgo grows irked if Libra is too lazy or can't join their train of thought. If little nit-picky things become settled behaviors, the relationship can get caught in a negative loop. There are challenges here, but also the potential to enjoy domestic harmony and a refined, clean, high-minded lifestyle. Libra and Virgo Love Story Keep in mind that love chemistry is more than the Sun sign. Look to Venus, the Moon, and Mars for a more nuanced portrait of this love match. Heck, look at the whole birth chart. Upside: Both dress to impress, have an innate sense of fair play, prefer simple elegance, and are passionate in bed. They're insightful conversationalists, intellectual, book lovers, have high standards, they're socially upstanding, they're devoted once in a committed relationship, and usually have a wide social network. Downside: Virgo is happy with much solitude, while Libra finds it tough being alone. Virgo has a sensitivity to teasing, struggles with defensiveness, and may feel that their privacy is invaded when others try to get close. Virgo is a realist and Libra is an idealist. Virgo is service-oriented, while Libra is status-seeking. Element and quality: Mutable Earth (Virgo) and Cardinal Air (Libra).