True.com Review **Now Closed**

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Note: True.com closed their doors; this review was left up so that folks searching for the formerly unique dating company can still read what they were all about.

With a purported ten plus million members, True dating is the first (and largest) online dating site to perform background checks on all of their users - and they won't hesitate to bring criminals or married people who have signed up at True dating to justice.

Yet True dating's lack of a real free trial makes its hefty monthly fee a bit hard to swallow, safe or not.

Overview from True.com

"TRUE.com® is the only online dating service and relationship site endorsed by Psychology Today®. And no other Internet dating service conducts criminal background screenings and single dating verification."

What a Membership Includes

Unfortunately, it's hard to tell exactly what a member receives with True.com at first glance. A paid user receives the option to take a compatibility test created by Psychology Today, and also has access to private, chat room and video messaging, email, profile searches and viewing. There is no option to see how long its been since someone has visited their profile at True dating, so knowing if the person you are contacting has a valid membership (and therefore can respond) is a challenge.

Unique Features

Fairly comprehensive search options are offered at True, such as keyword, screen name, who's online now, who's new, who's looking for me, and who's got new photos.

True is the only major online dating site to conduct background checks on all of its members.

Membership Costs

There are no free trials with True; you'll need a credit card just to register for the 'free' three days, which start automatically if you don't cancel your membership within the initial time frame.

If you choose the trial, you'll automatically be billed an extra $3 USD a month to chat with members, and another $1 USD a month for access to the 'coaching center'.

A full True.com monthly membership costs $49.99 USD, and allows users to contact and reply to other users, as well as view other member profiles.

The Bottom Line

While a lofty idea - only allowing members onto the dating site that meet their strict legal requirements for being "available", "single", and "safe", True had problems from the start with privacy concerns (meaning: it was incredibly invasive), cost to benefit analysis (it just wasn't worth the time to sign up, pay, and then discover that there wasn't anyone nearby on the site), and accountability (how do I *know* someone passed all of their requirements, and, how recently?). 

I wanted to love True, and, I heard from several readers while the site still existed that it was the-place-to-be for online daters serious about meeting someone special. The thing is, there's no guarantee that the guy you're messaging didn't get a quickie Las Vegas marriage yesterday, nor can you tell if that woman that seems amazing was just arrested yesterday for romance scam fraud. 

Instead of relying on a service to do the sleuthing for you, I suggest using these tools for finding a safe dating site, and then, dating safely and using a friend or relative as a safe call whenever meeting someone new.