Entertainment Love and Romance 5 Things You Need To Know About Collaborative Divorce Share PINTEREST Email Print Courtesy Getty Images Love and Romance Divorce Relationships Sexuality Teens LGBTQ Friendship By Cathy Meyer University of Florida Cathy Meyer is a certified divorce coach, marriage educator, freelance writer, and founding editor of DivorcedMoms.com. As a divorce mediator, she provides clients with strategies and resources that enable them to power through a time of adversity. our editorial process Facebook Facebook Twitter Twitter Cathy Meyer Updated July 14, 2017 A collaborative divorce occurs when spouses are able to work out an agreement with going to divorce court. Divorcing spouses have to decide how they want to proceed and whether they are going to need help from attorneys, mediators and other divorce professionals. Some couples end up in a lengthy, high conflict situation with attorneys representing both sides and trying to get everything they can get. While, others will be able to agree on how to divide property and share custody of there are children. They might only need help in preparing the legal paperwork to finalize the divorce. Many couples fall in the middle and will need the help of a mediator to come to an agreement on a final settlement. Couples who have differing points of view on issues such as property division, child custody or spousal support can go through a collaborative divorce also by hiring a mediator to help resolve any disputes. We all have a choice in how our divorce will proceed. Collaborative divorce is a benefit to all concerned and is not only used by those who agree completely on all issues. How Does The Collaborative Process Work? Collaborative divorce is a process in which you and your spouse negotiate an acceptable agreement with some professional help. You and your spouse each hire a specially trained collaborative attorney who advises and assists you in negotiating a settlement agreement. You meet separately with your own attorney and the four of you meet together on a regular basis. A collaborative divorce may also involve other professionals, such as child custody specialist or accountants. Normally, both spouses and their attorneys sign an agreement that requires the attorneys to withdraw from the case if a settlement is not reached and the case goes to court. Most collaborative divorce attorneys will not represent you if you end up in divorce court. You will have to find a more adversarial attorney. If you are able to come to an agreement you will eventually have contact with a family court judge so he/she can sign the agreement. Through collaboration, you can keep that contact brief and manageable. Once an agreement is reached on all issues, the legal part of the divorce is a simple, uncontested procedure that doesn’t require a trial or litigious hearings on points of evidence and pretrial maneuvers such as interrogatories and disclosure. How does Collaborative Divorce Help? Collaboration can cut down on the conflict and expense of divorce five ways. You and your spouse can: 1. Stabilize your situation through a temporary agreement. 2. Exchange all necessary information voluntarily. 3. Agree on legal procedures that cut down expense and simplify the process. 4. Negotiate a settlement that works for you both. 5. Come to an agreement on how post-divorce issue will be handled. Whether you use the collaborative approach from the beginning of your divorce or for only part of it, you will save money and time. Most importantly, you will get through the divorce process with your dignity and moral standards intact.