5 Things Never to Assume About a Friend

Taking Friends for Granted

Friendship can get really comfortable, to the point where we take each other for granted. We like someone and so we think they share our opinions or that we know them as well as anyone. But when it comes to friendship, you can't assume. You have to get to know people and sometimes that takes months or years. Don't rush it. Every friendship has it's own pace

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Never Assume That Your Friend Tells You Everything

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You know your friend really, really well. Right? But maybe you don't. Most people have a few things that they don't tell other people, even friends who love and care about them. Sometimes other people will know your friend's secret before you. Or maybe your friend chooses to tell you, but only years after the fact.

Finding out that a friend has kept something from you can feel like betrayal, but before you jump to any conclusions, give your friend the benefit of the doubt. There may be a good reason for them keeping things to themselves, even if it is that they were embarrassed or felt like it wasn't your business. 

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You Might Not Have the Same Opinions on Politics and Religion

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Chances are you'll have different political opinions than a friend. Digital Vision/Getty Images

Many arguments start because you and a friend disagree on a touchy subject like politics. But did you really think you and your friend agree on everything.

Don't let a difference of opinion end your friendship. If necessary, avoid talking about politics and once the election is over, do your best to mend fences. 

Know that your friend probably does have different opinions on at least some things in life, so instead of letting it come between you, use it as a bridge to more spirited conversation. And if you can't talk without bickering, then avoid that particular topic.

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When You Feel Like You'll Never Get Past a Sticking Point

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Arguing with a friend isn't always a bad thing. Jamie Grill/Getty Images

It might seem like your friendship is over because you just can't get past that one particular sticking point. But don't assume this! Never underestimate how much talking things through sufficiently can suddenly clear the air. Sometimes all your friend needs is to be fully "heard," and afterwards, it can feel like a whole new start to your relationship.

If you and your pal are fighting a lot, pay attention to this. Be especially mindful of arguments that seem like the same one being rehashed over and over. These are often the source of old wounds that never totally healed.

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Your Friendship Won't Change

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Sometimes friendship changes. Tony Anderson/Getty Images

Friendships will evolve as you age and your life changes, but the rate at which things shift is different for every relationship. That's why it can be so difficult when your friendship gets to a really good place, and change comes along to topple it.

One way to combat the disappointment and anxiety that change can bring is to view your friendship in moments. When you enjoy a moment where you really feel connected to a friend, be thankful for it but don't wish it to "stay." Friendships are meant to provide comfort and joy, but also teach us lessons. If things never changed, we wouldn't be able to grow as people.

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Nothing Can Ever Shake Your Friendship

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When you are friends for many years, you get so comfortable with each other you're almost like family. But even family members can experience a rough time that does such damage to the relationship. Sometimes, they end up estranged.

If you treat a friend poorly, it could end things between you for good, and that's true no matter how long you've been friends. Rather than have this happen with your friendship, give it the attention and respect it needs.