The Rules for How to Text Your Crush

Text the Guy or Girl You Like Without Overdoing It

Want to text the guy or girl you like, but not sure what sort of message to send - or how many texts is too much?  Play it safe and follow these rules for how to text your crush the right way.

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Text Your Crush a Simple Question

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If you want your crush to reply to your text, you'll have to give him or her a reason to reply in the first place.  Ask a simple question about what they're up to, or ask something related to a conversation you had recently (like, "How's that Spanish homework coming along?"). Don't be shy...if you like them, let them know by showing an interest in them.  Ask them a question to spark up a conversation. 

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Don't Wait by the Phone

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If your crush texts you back, that's great - but there's nothing you can do to make it happen sooner. Don't become that weird, creepy person who just stares at the phone thinking that you will magically make the message appear.  Weird.  Occupy yourself with another activity so that you don't feel compelled to pick up the phone again.

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Don't Text Your Crush Twice in a Row

Slow down grasshopper.  Once you send a text, don't send another one till you hear back.  Two (or more) messages in a row can come off as desperate and stalker-ish, especially if you're sending them to someone who isn't already a close friend.  

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Keep the Conversation Going...to a Point

Hopefully, your crush will respond to your text.  Get the conversation going by replying, and see where it leads you.  But don't keep things rolling just because.  If you notice him or her responding with lots of one-word answers, or if more and more time passes between texts, then hold off for the night, or pick up the phone and give them a call. Your crush is either sending you signals that it's time for the conversation to be over, or that they are tired of texting and would rather talk instead. 

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Follow Up in Person

Texting is great because it's low-pressure and not too nerve-wracking, but relationships can't be built on text messages alone.  The next time that you see your crush in person, go up to him or her and continue your conversation face-to-face. 

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Look for This Big Sign That They're Not Interested

Are you always the one who texts your crush first - does he or she never start a conversation or text you out of the blue?  That's a sign that your crush might just be texting you out of boredom or politeness and doesn't think of you when you're not around.  Hold off on the texts for a couple of days.  If you don't hear back, you're probably better off without them.

Blog updated by Keisha Howard, Teen Advice Expert.