Entertainment Love and Romance The Best Places To Find Gay Men Share PINTEREST Email Print Ryan McVay/Photodisc/Getty Images Love and Romance LGBTQ Relationships Sexuality Divorce Teens Friendship By Ramon Johnson Updated April 01, 2018 Is there one good way to find gay men that are interested in romance? Unfortunately, there is no holding tank for gay men waiting to be paired up nor is there a magic bullet to finding your personal homo hero. But never fret- there are many good places to find gay men willing to date. Here are the top four. Online Chat Rooms/Dating Sites Are chat rooms and dating sites about sex or about love? Well, it's actually a little bit of both. Most chat rooms and dating sites leave it up to the seeker to let the general room population know if they are looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now. Clearly state what type of man you are looking for and under what circumstances you are willing to meet. Dance Club/ Lounge There are arguably as many gay men that dislike gay clubs and bars as there are that live for a weekend of dancing. Either way, for the party enthusiast, the club or lounge can be a great place to meet men. Couch potatoes shouldn't feel left out though, smaller and less intimidating lounges can also be a great venue for gay men of all types. And of course, if you can get past the blatant displays of testosterone "heterosexual" clubs are also a good source. Many homosexuals go to straight clubs with their heterosexual friends and are often easy to spot. Everyday Life Despite what the authors of children's fairy tales wants us to believe, there is no such thing as a knight in shining armor or a prince on a white horse showing up at your door to save the day. Of course, it is possible for you to secure a date with the UPS delivery man, but the likelihood of that happening is quite slim. However, the tales that aren't a lie are the ones about meeting the man of your dreams at the grocery store or the record store or the coffee shop or the car wash or the park. The list is endless. Gay men do the same activities and need to run the same errands as everyone else and the odds of running into one that catches your eye is better than sitting at home alone. This method is especially effective for gay men living in a small town. More than likely you will run into another gay man at some point around town. Of course, once you make contact the next step is up to you. Referrals Referrals from friends, co-workers or family are hands down the best way to meet a guy. I'm not talking about the spin of the roulette wheel called a blind date, but an actual informal introduction arranged by a friend. Usually, these begin with the standard, "I know this cute guy..." or "I think one of my co-workers is gay..." and end with "I can arrange for you guys to meet..." Even if you are shy or don't quite mesh with the "referral," take solace in the fact that they have other gay friends. If you meet and it works out- great! If not, befriend them and network. Expanding your circle of gay friends can only lead to possibilities for romance. Friends not beating down your door with referrals? Then ask them if they know of anyone. You'll be amazed at how many times you'll hear, "Now that you mention it, I do know a..." Despite these very effective places to meet gay men, it is important that you get out and meet people. That will always remain the best method of finding a man. If you are shy, take your time and ease your way onto the scene. In time, there is always someone for everyone. Happy man hunting!