Stages of Friendship Development

Different Types Of Friends

Some friendships stay in one stage for a long time, while others seem to go from acquaintance to BFF in no time. There is no right or wrong way for a friendship to develop. These stages of friendship development aren't required or necessary. In fact, a friendship can move from very close to more casual as well. It all depends on the people involved. 

Most friendships grow over time from one stage to another, until two people become closer and closer. Not every friendship will reach best friend status as each relationship is different. Some relationships may start out as acquaintances and stay there for a long time before they move to the friendship stage. Others may escalate quickly from online friends to besties. It all depends on the people involved, their expectation level, and how much time and effort they are willing to devote to the friendship.

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An acquaintance is someone you might here and there at social events. Image courtesy of Ambro / FreeDigitalPhotos.net.

A casual friend or acquaintance is someone you know slightly. You might see and interact with the individual on occasion or even on a regular basis, but they are not your actual friend.

Unless the person acknowledges you as a friend (and you spend time together outside of the function or event that brought you together), you are an acquaintance. The distinction to friendship comes when a personal relationship has developed.

You may be an acquaintance of someone for many years without a true friendship developing. Or, it can be the first step in getting to know a future friend. It depends on the two people involved and the circumstances of events that bring them together. More »

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Mentors are people who share their knowledge and experience with us. It is not unusual for a mentor to be older, and as a result look at life a different way. Mentors help us navigate our career and personal choices, as well as introduce us to new people.

A mentor can become a friend at some point, especially when both people are more on the same level. However, a mentor may sometimes never be a real friend. (Here's the difference between a friend and a mentor.) They are nonetheless an important part of our lives.

You can make a real difference in the emotional development of someone else by being a mentor as well. More »

Online friends, or people that you know solely through the Internet in some way (forums, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) can enhance your life in many ways. Online friends can feel as if they are "always there" because you interact with them through the Internet, where Facebook pages and forums are available round the clock.

Online friends are great, but they cannot replace one-on-one interaction with a real-life friend. However, more and more sites are helping people meet online and then continue their friendship in the real world. More »

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Someone you have a personal relationship with (you've spend time together and bonded) can be considered a friend. Your friendships may be slightly different from each other, and even include different levels.

You may also start out as good friends with someone, but then drift back to being occasional friends at some point in your relationship. Friendships are fluid and changing, so it's not unusual to see them go through periods of time where the people involved feel very close to each other, struggle, drift apart, and get back together. No two friendships are the same.  More »

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A good friend is someone you would consider part of your inner circle. These are people who know the most about your life and have likely been through a few ups and downs with you. You may have several friends and one or two people you would consider "good friends." Good friends are generally those you see and talk to the most often. More »

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Best friends are people who you are very close to, and who you spend a great deal of time with. They are the first person you call when you're excited, hurt, or just want to chat. Best friends can often feel like family because they are there for us during the most important moments in our life.

Not everyone has a best friend, which is okay. Some people may have one best friend and no others, which is also fine. It all depends on your personal preference and what makes you happy. More »