Spooning Sex Positions

Image of the basic spooning sex position.

Some sex positions are cryptic.  The flying lotus?  The shy bear? You need an instruction manual and twister game board just to get started.  Other positions are intuitive, the names themselves telling you most of what you need to know.

Such is the case with the spooning sex position.  The basic spooning position, like it's cousin the side by side facing sex position is a position about comfort and closeness more than it is about vigorous or active intercourse.


Because it's a position that doesn't give you a lot of traction, it's hard to move a lot to build rhythm or momentum. This isn't a negative if what you are craving is more snuggle than snog.

Spooning Variations

If you are penetrating your partner, you might want to be lower down then them on the bed. Use your hands and arms to spread apart or lift up one of their legs. In another variation, the partner being penetrated can curl up a bit, exposing their bum and/or vagina. The "scissors" position is another variation on side-by-side.

See more variations in our Spooning Sex Position Picture Gallery.

Benefits and Drawbacks:

  • While this position offers physical closeness and intimacy it is difficult to move a lot or to co-ordinate two moving bodies.
  • Since both partners are facing the same direction there can be a real sense of two becoming one. But this position doesn't allow you to see your partners full face.
  • Spooning may work well for people with specific areas of pain, and while the intercourse might be slower, it can last longer without having to change positions.