6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

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When you're in a happy and healthy relationship, this means that you and your partner respect each other, care about each other deeply, and bring out the best in each other. Unfortunately, not every relationship falls into this category. And when you look at your own relationship with a more critical eye, you'll be better able to determine what type of connection you and your partner share, as there are six key signs of a toxic relationship.

1. Your Partner Is Extremely Jealous 

When you have a jealous partner, you may find yourself bending over backward to quell his or her baseless fears of your infidelity or disloyalty. For instance, your partner may forbid you from spending time with a coworker of the opposite sex because he or she feels nervous, intimated, or worried that you’re going to be unfaithful. However, in order for a relationship to be successful, it’s imperative that your partner fully trusts you and doesn't think that you're going to cheat on him or her every time you're away from one another. But if he or she is jealous of the time you spend with others, feels threatened by your connections with other people, and requires you to constantly reassure him or her that you’re a faithful partner, it’s time to reconsider your connection and free yourself from this toxic relationship.

2. Your Partner Is Controlling

People who are controlling often find ways to manipulate and dominate their partner in order to feel powerful and important.

For instance, your boyfriend may tell you he doesn’t want you to wear a revealing shirt or a short dress, or your girlfriend may prevent you from hanging out with a friend of yours who she considers to be too wild. However, it’s important to remember that you have complete and total autonomy over yourself, and your partner doesn't have the right to tell you what to do.

He or she shouldn’t be controlling or possessive, but rather supportive and trusting. Since you’re the only one in charge of you, if your partner acts more like your boss, it’s time to fire him or her and get out of this toxic relationship.

3. Your Partner Is Emotionally or Physically Abusive

If your partner has been abusive toward you in any way, this is a key sign that you're in a toxic relationship that you should get out of immediately. Emotional abuse can come in many forms, and if your partner puts you down, disrespects you, or makes you feel unworthy or unwanted, your relationship isn’t a healthy one. Along these lines, if your partner is physically violent toward you in any capacity, it’s time to leave this relationship as soon as possible. Your partner should never physically harm you under any circumstances, and if he or she acts in a violent way toward you, it's time to hand this person his or her walking papers and exit this toxic relationship.

4. You Walk on Eggshells Around Your Partner

For those who are in toxic relationships, you may find that your partner tends to act like a ticking time bomb. You never know what may anger this person or set him or her off, and you may find that you’re constantly bending over backwards, avoiding topics that you know will upset him or her, or going out of your way to prevent any sort of conflict so that you don't have to deal with the aftermath of upsetting your partner.

But this isn't healthy, beneficial, or sustainable, as you shouldn't have to hold back or constantly behave in a way that won’t rock the boat with your partner.

5. You’re Not Your True Self

Along these lines, do you ever feel as though you’re playing a part or a role in your relationship? If you constantly find yourself acting a certain way to please your partner or feigning interests because you think that's what your partner wants to hear, it's clear that you're in a toxic relationship. Your partner should like you for the person you really are, and if you're pretending to be someone else in your relationship and aren't speaking up about your true thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, then you're in an unhealthy and detrimental relationship. You and your partner should be able to be completely open, honest, and vulnerable around each other, but if you're not able to be forthright about who you truly are and what you truly believe, this relationship is a toxic one.

6. You Fight All the Time

Constantly being in fight mode isn't healthy for your mental or physical well-being. And if you're frequently arguing with your partner, having big blowouts, and yelling and screaming at one another at the top of your lungs, it's time to reevaluate your relationship with one another. Even if you always makeup afterwards, being in a relationship shouldn't feel like you're living in a war zone. While having some conflict is a natural part of any relationship, it's quite different when you and your partner are always at each other's throats. When disagreements and shouting matches are the norm, this should help to clue you in that you're in a toxic relationship.