Sex Books for Couples

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Looking for tips to expand your sexual relationship? This list of sex books for couples includes everything from sex tips and techniques to suggestions on delving into each other's erotic psyches, these books offer motivation, support, and guidance to deepen your sexual bond. These books are primarily written and marketed to heterosexual couples. But there's lots of good stuff in here, so it isn't that difficult to make these books' advice relevant to any relationship.

The Multi-Orgasmic Couple

By Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams

Those looking to enhance their sexual relationship with a dose of spiritualism should check out the Multi-Orgasmic Couple. Easy to read, with lots of homework exercises and practical tips, this Taoist approach feels a little less heavy-handed than some other Tantric sex books. I'm not sure I can fully get behind the concept of never ejaculating again (to understand it, you have to read the book), but I appreciated the new ideas and the straightforward approach.

224 pages, 2002

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex

By Anne Semans and Cathy Winks

If you don't already own this book, put it on your wish list. It's been called the Joy of Sex for the 21st century, and with good reason. This is a book I've read cover to cover, and I still keep it by my desk (and bed) for easy reference. From vibrators and strap-ons to dirty talk and cybersex, Anne Semans and Cathy Winks set the standard for fun, nonjudgmental sex manuals and The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex continues to be a must-read for all sexual adventurers.​

325 pages, 2002

Sex With the Lights On

By Ducky Doolittle

Strictly speaking, this isn't just a sex book for people in relationships, but as one of my favorite books it ends up on many of my top lists. Ducky Doolittle has traveled the country for years giving entertaining and educational workshops on every sexual topic under the sun. Her book, which is subtitled "200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered," is written as an extended Q& A session. It gives to-the-point sex advice and guidance with humor and compassion. Everyone benefits from an encounter with Ducky Doolittle, and this book offers the reader 200 such opportunities.

320 pages, 2006

The Erotic Mind

By Jack Morin

Not your pop psychology, quick fix, self-help book, The Erotic Mind is unlike any other sex book you'll read. Read it yourself, or better yet, buy two copies and read it together, sharing your experiences as you move through this excellent book that aims to help people explore "peak erotic experiences." The book is based on psychotherapist Jack Morin's years of experience working with individuals to remove the barriers to sexual fulfillment.

400 pages, 1996

52 Invitations to Grrreat Sex

By Laura Corn

Laura Corn has taken the tips and techniques you'll find in most sex manuals and reconfigured them into 52 sexual encounters. The book comes with 26 invitations for you to send to your partner and 26 for your partner to send to you. Each invitation is sealed and contains instructions on a sexy encounter that awaits that week, ranging from romantic to raunchy

230 pages, 2005

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy

By Violet Blue

Veteran sex guide author Violet Blue guides you through playful and creative ways to spice up your sex lives. Whether living single or enjoying coupledom, find out how to make your hottest fantasies come to life. Learn how to talk dirty, strip for your lover, make your own porn, and create thrilling scenarios. Included are a few great fantasy erotic stories by Alison Tyler.

250 pages, 2004

Position of the Day Playbook


Sex positions are among the most commonly requested sex tip for couples. This tongue-in-cheek (and elsewhere) book offers 365 sexual positions for inspiration, amazement, and often just laughs. Most positions are only possible if you're a two-dimensional stick figure, but with so many different positions, you're bound to find a few that are new and to your mutual liking. Plus, the homework couldn't be more fun.

376 pages, 2004

The Art of Sexual Ecstasy

By Margo Anand

If you're yearning to explore the spiritual side of sexuality, you may want to pick up this classic western take on Tantric sex. Margo Anand has run workshops across North America and provides a thorough book on everything from the theory to the practice. Sexual positions, the importance of breath and communication, making time for each other and masturbation are all covered.

450 pages, 1989