Hobbies Astrology Scorpio Love Tips Share PINTEREST Email Print Credit: Cultura RM Exclusive/GretaMarie. Astrology Love & Compatibility Basics 12 Signs of the Zodiac Trends & Horoscopes The Sun & Sun Signs The Moon & Moon Signs The Houses By Molly Hall Molly Hall is an astrologer, tarot reader, and author of "Astrology: A Complete Illustrated Guide to the Zodiac." our editorial process Molly Hall Updated April 30, 2018 Scorpios have a reputation of being the lustiest sign of the Zodiac, though they keep that a secret until they're ready to strike. They are also intensely loyal, passionate and caring to those they love. Scorpio in love is self-protective, and prefers to suss things out covertly. You might find out that your Scorpio did some detective work on you before agreeing to go on a date. Scorpio might do more than just "google" you; they tend to have their own secret tricks for uncovering any dirt or telling associations. And yet, they prefer to unwrap a new potential love slowly. They're attracted to more subtle gestures of seduction, and turned off by direct, brutish or vulgar advances. They're sexual creatures, but many have an air of dignity to go along with it and to act as a cover for all kinds of private pleasures to come. And private is a good word for Scorpio, as they ask all kinds of leading questions, and offer little in return. They have a gift for keeping their own revelations light, while penetrating your psyche with their x-ray vision. Scorpio Guys and Gals The Scorpio man is a brooder, and is one of those guys that undresses you with his mind, if he's interested. Some are drawn to those who also hint at a hidden wild side, like the librarian who lets her hair down after hours. The Scorpio woman holds her own, and men find that self-contained quality intriguing. In hook-up culture, she's less likely to lower her standards, and more apt to have intense, but quality affairs. When dating Scorpio, don't forget that no two are alike. The Scorpion will back up with stinger raised if you act like you've got their number. They detest assumptions, since they know they are an enigma wrapped in a mystery. To win Scorpio, be yourself, but cultivate an air of mysterious discovery in the getting-to-know-you phase. Scorpio is a born detective and loves relationships that constantly reveal new layers. Scorpio is ruled by Mars (traditional) and Pluto (modern) and love is sometimes a battle of wills here. With Scorpio, love is a hook that digs in deep and brings out what's buried, setting off cycles of transformation. Scorpio craves that kind of total change, and is drawn instinctively to those that can walk through the shadows with them. A relationship with Scorpio might not be easy, but it is life-altering, as it often reaches in to the soul. Not one for superficial dalliances, Scorpio brings her whole self to the moment, and looks for others who are capable of doing the same. For more on how Scorpio loves, look at the Venus and Mars signs. For more on the deeper emotional nature, look to the Moon sign. First, What Not to Do Don't tell lies to impress, since you will be found out. Don't ask too many personal questions in the beginning. Don't give away your power, as that's a sure way to lose respect. Check your motives for getting together. If they involve using Scorpio in any way, better think twice. Don't try to boss Scorpio around. Don't underestimate Scorpio's ability to get their way. Don't try to compete with Scorpio. Don't fall into self-pity or wallow in insecurity. Don't assume you're a couple too soon. Don't tell friends the intimate details of your relationship. Don't post private things about Scorpio on Facebook. Don't tag them, either, unless you get their permission. What To Do (to Impress Scorpio) Dress seductively. Pick places to eat or meet that seem like secret rendezvous points. Listen with sincere interest. Share stories that have emotional substance. Talk about your own passions. Suggest going to see movies with a complex mystery in the plot. Do display confidence in yourself. Support Scorpio, but don't be patronizing or show cloying sympathy. Give thoughtful gifts based on something you remember hearing Scorpio say. Plan a get-away where nobody knows where you are. Cultivate a sense of private intimacy.