5 Reasons Not to Get Married

Unsure Woman.

 Westend61/Westend61/Getty Images

Getting married is a huge decision that can impact the rest of your life in many different ways. Ideally, choosing to marry someone is something that will bring you lifelong happiness, fulfillment, and love. However, when it comes to making this crucial choice, you should make sure that your reasons compelling you to walk down the aisle are valid. With this in mind, it's important to be able to recognize the five key reasons not to get married.

1. You Feel Intense Pressure to Get Married

When it comes to getting married, you may feel pressure from your partner, your friends, and your family to say "yes" and take this major step. For example, you may feel as though your partner is dropping hints at every moment and practically nagging or begging you to marry him or her. However, if you're getting married because people are telling you that this is what you should do rather than because this is something you truly want to do, then your marriage is destined to fail, as it's not what you truly desire. No one should force, coerce, or bully you into getting married. Instead, deciding to get married is something that has to come from your heart rather than the hearts of others. And if you're undecided or hesitant in making this kind of commitment, this is a reason to follow your instincts and not get married.

2. You Feel Like You're Running Out of Time to Find Someone Else

Many people decide to marry their partner because they don't think they'll find someone else who'd want to marry them.

However, if you're getting married because you're afraid that you're running out of time to meet someone else or you don't think that you're worthy of being with a partner who truly meets your needs, then it's evident that you're settling in your relationship. You should get married because you truly love your partner, trust him or her, and want to spend the rest of your life with him or her and not because you're afraid of being alone.

And if your decision to get married is based on a fear of loneliness, it's safe to say that your marriage isn't going to be a happy one. When it comes to getting married, it's important to recognize that you're worthy of true love, and you should wait to say yes to Mr. or Miss Right rather than Mr. or Miss Right Now.

3. You're Getting Married for Superficial Reasons

Do you truly know, respect, and love your partner, or do you love that your partner owns his or her home, has a lucrative career, and buys you expensive gifts? If you're getting married because you enjoy what your partner has to offer you rather than enjoying the time you spend together, then you're basing your decision to get married on the wrong reasons. It's important that you and your partner care deeply about each other, know each other on many levels, and have shared goals and values. But if you're basing your decision to get married on what's in your partner's bank account rather than what's in his or her heart, you're heading for an unfulfilling marriage ahead.

4. You Want the Wedding, Not the Marriage

In many instances, people get so caught up in wanting to have an actual wedding that they don't prioritize what a marriage to their partner actually entails.

For example, while you may be excited to select a venue, go wedding dress shopping, taste different cakes, and have a bridal shower and engagement party, it's imperative that you take a look beyond the wedding itself and concentrate on what a marriage to your partner really means. Are you your authentic self around this person? Do you know and love this person deeply? Do you want the same things in the future? It's not uncommon to get so caught up in organizing a wedding that you're not prepared for what happens when the honeymoon is over. If you're concentrating on party planning rather than focusing on what's actually happening in your relationship, your marriage to this person may be short-lived.

5. You Think It Will Fix Problems in Your Relationship

It's not uncommon to think that a marriage to your partner will help solve the different problems that you're having in your relationship.

For instance, if you're worried that your partner is going to cheat, you may think that getting married is going to prevent him or her from being unfaithful because you've made vows to each other in front of your friends and family. However, if you already have trust issues in your relationship and are hoping that a marriage is going to stop your partner from acting out, then you're getting married for the wrong reasons. Problems that you have in your relationship aren't going to magically disappear once you get married, and if you're fighting about certain things, these fights will likely continue after your wedding day. It's important to resolve issues and find common ground before you tie the knot if you want your marriage to succeed.