Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?

Do you and your S.O. really understand each other? Take this quiz to find out.

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Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?

You got: You Are a Great Communicator

I got You Are a Great Communicator. Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?
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You and your partner have terrific communications skills, and your relationship is thriving as a result. The lines of communication between the two of you are open, and by being completely engaged in what your partner is expressing and staying in the moment, you’re able to truly listen to one another. You also place a great deal of emphasis on honesty, and you’re able to express your true feelings to your partner, even when it comes to difficult issues. Importantly, by being straightforward with your partner, you can work together to come up with compromises, and by doing so, the your connection will be that much stronger.

It’s important to continue on this path of truthfulness and sincerity with your partner. Even if situations arise when you’re tempted to fib, or avoid certain topics altogether, these choices in the short-term will only hurt you in the long run. If you commit to keeping your communication levels high, the success of your relationship will be high as well.

Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?

You got: You Have Good Communication Skills

I got You Have Good Communication Skills. Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?
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You and your partner have good communication skills, but there’s room for growth. While it’s evident that you understand the importance of honesty, you sometimes feel compelled to hold back the full truth. However, you shouldn’t be afraid to tell your partner how you’re actually feeling. Instead of leaving subtle hints, commit to having an honest conversation. Remember, your partner isn’t a detective, so leaving these understated clues isn’t going to help, and on the flip side, having a full-blown screaming match with your partner is only going to shut down the communication lines altogether. 

In the future, you and your partner should make a commitment to be more honest and present in the moment. Even if it feels unnatural to be so open and vulnerable with someone else, it’s the only way to truly get to know someone and build a real connection. Have the courage and conviction to express what’s on your mind in a calm and mature way—your relationship will mature as a result.

Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?

You got: Your Communication Skills Need Improvement

I got Your Communication Skills Need Improvement. Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?
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It’s apparent that you and your partner need to work on your communication skills, and the good news is that you can start now. At this point, you’re not making a real commitment to be honest with one another, you have misunderstanding after misunderstanding and you aren’t interested in telling your partner your actual feelings. In essence, you’re playing a role in your relationship, and you’re behaving in a way that you think is what your partner wants from you. However, if you’re truly interested in having a real relationship with this person, you have to be your real self.

With this in mind, it’s important to be honest with your partner, and this should begin right now. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions about your partner’s past, tell your partner what’s on your mind and let him or her know more about your true passions. You’re a unique and special person, and if you’re finding that you’re trying to play a certain part in a relationship, it might be time to part ways instead.

Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?

You got: Your Communication Skills Need Major Work

I got Your Communication Skills Need Major Work. Quiz: How Strong Are Your Communication Skills as a Couple?
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Your communication skills as a couple have vast room for improvement, but fortunately there are ways for you to make real progress. At this point, you’re not placing any importance on honesty, are content with hiding your true feelings and are committed to faking who you really are. However, your relationship will never be able to grow if you’re not your authentic self. You shouldn’t be afraid to express your real thoughts, and this change should start today. If you’re not happy with the way he or she is treating you, just say so. If you want to know about his or her past, you just have to ask.

It’s time to commit to expressing yourself—your true self—so that your partner isn’t left in the dark. Having the difficult discussions are part of being in a real relationship, so even if it’s hard, you both should face this challenge head-on. The key to improving your communication as a couple is by having more than a couple of conversations.