5 Ways to Tell if Your College Crush Likes You

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Tony Garcia

Suppose you have your eye on someone as a potential date, boyfriend, or girlfriend. Or, you may just want to find someone to ask out for coffee or a drink, away from the college crowd. Determining if she likes you can be maddening. These five situations can help you gauge the other person's feelings—as well as your own—about possibly taking things to another level.

Go Out in a Group

Ask yourself a few questions when you go out with your potential romantic interest as part of a group:

  • Is this person next to you the whole night?
  • Are you next to him?
  • Is he interested in what you have to say?
  • Does he laugh at your jokes, wait for you when the group moves around, and pay attention when you talk?
  • Are you frequently making eye contact?

Answering yes to any of these questions might indicate an interest in you, in particular, instead of just common group dynamics.

Do Something Together Off-Campus

If you have to visit a local museum for your art history paper, see if this potential date wants to come along. His eagerness at doing so, and the chemistry that happens while you two are out, can be a great way to see what's going on between the two of you. Of course, if you're heading off-campus, ensure that you're safe about it.

Grab a Meal Together

If you're interested in someone, chances are that you have things in common and have done things together—or with a group—already. If so, try to carry that momentum into a friendly meal together. Did you work together on a class project, seek her advice on your computer science program, or research similar paper topics in the library? If so, celebrate finishing the work by grabbing a quick meal off-campus.

Keep it casual. Running off-campus for a quick lunch of a burger or Chinese food has a much different feel than a nice, sit-down evening meal that's been planned two weeks in advance.

Ask for Help With Something

If you like someone and she is really smart in a certain subject or has some experience in a research topic you're working on, ask if she is interested in helping you. You can have a great discussion that will help expand your understanding of something you already find interesting, and you will be able to see what this person is like on a more personal level.

A few key questions to ask include:

  • Has she had a lot of classes with a new professor of yours, and if so, can she talk to you about how that person grades?
  • Is she majoring in a discipline you're taking your first class in?
  • Can she give you some feedback on a survey you want to pass out to people in your residence hall?

Then, of course, see how the conversation goes. Afterward, ask yourself, was she:

  • Willing to help?
  • Friendly, interesting, and engaging?
  • Supportive?
  • Someone you'd want to have more conversations with, such as over a real college dinner date that isn't made of food you both sneaked into the library?

Share Some Exciting News

Exciting bits of news to share include that you:

  • Were accepted into your summer internship program;
  • Got an "A" on that project you asked for help with;
  • Received happy news from one of your friends or family members.

Share this great news with your potential crush and see how she reacts. If she is supportive, interested, and wants to celebrate with you one-on-one, it might be a sign that the friendship could develop into something more.

General Tips

Having a crush on someone, and even putting it totally in the open, is something that should be very flattering. Anyone worth dating in the first place should be touched by your sentiments and handle them with respect, regardless of whether he feels the same way. The most important thing is to put yourself out there and take a chance—otherwise, you'll never know.