Entertainment Love and Romance Penis Size Does it matter to gay men? Share PINTEREST Email Print Medioimages/Photodisc/Photodisc/Getty Images Love and Romance LGBTQ Relationships Sexuality Divorce Teens Friendship By Ramon Johnson Updated March 19, 2018 Does penis size matter to gay men? You'll get as many different answers as the number of men you ask. Some consider it the most important thing, others not so much. Do you measure up? Are you embarrassed/proud of yours? Know the truth about penis size. Average Penis Size: How Big Is Big? The average penis is five to seven inches (127 to 178 mm) long when erect (measured from the tip of the penis head to the abdomen). The average circumference of a penis is near 5 inches or 127 mm around. There isn't a single person on this planet that hasn't heard general statements relating penis size to race and ethnicity. Though in some cases the generalizations are true, they are merely stereotypes. There are men in all ethnic groups that negate such generalizations. In other words, don't judge a book by its cover! You may be disappointed with the results or pleasantly surprised, so don't believe the hype. Gay Self Esteem Linked to Penis Size A new study conducted out of Utrecht University in Amsterdam shows a link between gay male penis size and gay self-esteem. The larger the penis, they say, the more confident gay men were with potential lovers and in every-day life. But a large size does not mean a good lover. It is like owning a Lamborghini and not knowing how to drive it. It is very arousing to encounter a large penis size in your sexual adventures, but performance is also very important. Judging by Size You can't judge the true size of a penis while it is flaccid. Sometimes guys with relatively small flaccid penises grow to a larger size when erect, while their larger counterparts don't show as much growth when aroused. Thus the terms grower and shower. Penis Enhancement Before you try the numerous products on the market promising to increase your penis size, know the facts and avoid false promises. And also try to live true and honest with yourself. A friend of mine used to say he preferred a small and entertaining penis than a large dull one. Circumcision and Size Is it true that circumcision increases the size of your penis? Circumcision has been used for cultural and health purposes. Some men choose to do it for hygienic issues. A few penises may look bigger after circumcision, some may even gain a little in size, but most of them don't increase in size at all.