Moon Signs and Compatibility in Love

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When a relationship settles into a groove, or when two people move in together—this is when moon compatibility (or lack of it) is revealed. The moon comes out when the honeymoon period is over.

Learning about your moon sign—and your lover's—is valuable for understanding your deeper nature and your compatibility in love. The moon is often associated with the soul and emotions. Your sign may help you understand the bundle of unconscious baggage you seek to hide or deny. It also tells you how you relate in love on the most intimate levels.


When two people's moons are conjunct—in the same Zodiac sign—there's a homey feeling. Both people tend to react to crises in the same way. These partners may experience something like telepathy, and even shared dreams. A great indicator of domestic bliss, moons that are in sync indicate that both people in the relationship like the same atmosphere at home.

Different Moods

When moons square, it means that there is tension at the heart of a relationship. This is not always a bad thing. Keep in mind that some bonds grow tighter when there is a provocative spark—it keeps things interesting.

When two people have moons in a challenging aspect (square or opposition), they will usually be out of sync. One person may be loud and outgoing while the other is quiet and introspective. When one person is tired, the other may be full of energy.

These differences do not have to doom a relationship. As long as both partners can learn to understand each other's quirks, the relationship can succeed and even thrive. It will just require some time and patience.

Estranged Moons

When moons are quincunx (inconjunct) to each other, they are 150 degrees apart. That means that the element and the modality are both different, making it hard for partners to "get" each other.

In this case, the moons are estranged. Partners with estranged moons have difficulty reassuring each other emotionally. One may be fixed earth (craving stability and calm), while the other is cardinal air (craving intensity and excitement).

With a commitment to compromise, partners with estranged moons can overcome these differences. There may also be some letting go required—letting go of expectations—in order to accept the other as they are.

Moons in Sync

People with moons of the same element (fire, earth, air, or water) have similar ways of translating their emotions. The emotions of others, especially those close to you, can be triggers for your own. If you're not okay with how someone emotes, or if they make you deeply uncomfortable, it could be a moon thing. Your moon sign affects your comfort zone.

Fire sign moons are quick to react, excitable, and love to be on the move. Earth sign moons are sensual and flourish when stable structures are in place—at home and at work.

Air sign moons discuss emotions and often see them as if from the outside. Water sign moons are emotionally sensitive and often tuned in to deeper currents (what's not said).

Moon Signs in Love

In astrology, moon signs are associated with particular personalities and romantic styles.

  • Moon in Aries: Quick to get angry; quick to get over it. Will not adjust themselves to make others feel better. Attracted to animated individuals who do their own thing.
  • Moon in Taurus: Very rooted with a sense of place. Heavy in their body, lover of creature comforts. Enjoys relaxing in nature and being immersed in sensual experiences (cooking, making music, loving). Slow to change.
  • Moon in Gemini: Talks about emotions—can be a manic over-talker. Delights in the new or weird, or the humorous angle. Bonds with ideas, jokes, stories, fantasy scenarios. Attracted to bright minds, comics, playful characters.
  • Moon in Cancer: Sensitive, very bonded to the family. Lover of home, and gets along well with women. Sentimental, remembers everything, has a hard time letting go. Attracted to those they feel "at home" with, motherly types, those who create safety.
  • Moon in Leo: Big-hearted and dramatic. Very romantic and eager to show affection with generous gifts or creations. A cheerleader, a regal lover who expects respect. Attracted to striking people with something special going on, big spenders, people who are playful and funny.
  • Moon in Virgo: Feels safe in familiar routines. Hard to get to know. Devoted, sincere, and eager to please. Likes clean places and people. Attracted to punctual, attentive, and wholesome lovers.
  • Moon in Libra: Walks on air, very charismatic. Feels safe in a twosome, facing the world with a partner. Attracted to thoughtful, considerate lovers with good etiquette and style.
  • Moon in Scorpio: Concealed intensity, still waters run deep. May experience relationship traumas that change them completely. Very psychic and loyal to those who win their trust. Attracted to mysterious (and sometimes dangerous) lovers.
  • Moon in Sagittarius: Friendly and open to many kinds of connections. Sexually adventurous. Attracted to high-spirited lovers, and those from very different cultures, races, or backgrounds.
  • Moon in Capricorn: Saturn rules emotional life, so go easy on this misunderstood soul. Serious, sometimes melancholy. Craves longevity in romance and a rock-solid home life. Attracted to movers and shakers, the worldly, solid upstanding citizens.
  • Moon in Aquarius: Remote at times, friendly, and bright-minded. Hard for them to put into words how they feel. Loves freedom of expression and movement. Attracted to unusual people, intellectuals, those at the cutting edge.
  • Moon in Pisces: Romantic and compassionate. Ultra-sensitive to the environment, drawn to enchanting atmospheres. Attracted to the bewitching, the spiritual, kindness, eclectic styles and ways, and the deeply intimate.