Military Date Night

Ideas to Put the Spark Back in Your Romance

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If you’re part of a military family, chances are you and your husband doesn't get to go out as often as you’d like.  Between his duties on base, moving from place to place, and the general hustle and bustle of everyday life, it can be easy to let weeks go by without a date.  That’s why it’s more important than ever to block out some quality time alone with your spouse.  The two of you need to make a commitment to spend time relaxing together, laughing together, and just plain catching up. If you’re looking for a way to get away from it all for an evening, check out these great date night activities

First, Leave the Kids Behind

Yes, we know how much you both love your kids, but there’s no way in the world for you to fully enjoy your spouse’s company if you’re trying to keep your baby happy and your toddler busy while the whole family is out to dinner.  So, get yourselves a babysitter. If you don’t know one (because you just moved), you’ll definitely want to check out You’ll even get a military discount your first time. If finances are an issue, consider creating your own neighborhood babysitting co-op. You watch your neighbors’ kids while they’re out on the town, and they’ll reciprocate when it’s your turn. This way, you and your spouse get to spend a quiet evening together and save a few bucks at the same time.

Go Do Something Fun

Sure, you could spring for the typical dinner and a movie (keep in mind that many bases have a theater that shows fairly current movies), but if you want to you’re your relationship into high gear, skip the old standbys and try something new (or at least something you haven’t done for a while). Go swimming, hiking, golfing, or bowling, or find a local landmark and explore.  The sky’s the limit!  But remember: we tend to tend to remember the experience of doing something—how it felt—than what we actually did. So get out there and make some memories together.

Act Like Kids Again

Who says that only kids can play? Why not do something kid-like, such as paintballing or taking turns pushing each other on swings at the park?  You could head out on a romantic bike ride or stroll down Main Street, ducking into cozy shops and art galleries. No matter what you do, make sure it’s something that you and your spouse will be able to enjoy together.

Learn Something New

There’s nothing like learning a new skill with your loved one right beside you. You could take a cooking class, a painting class, a dance class, or something else.  You could sign up for a fitness class together (yoga for couples is a thing these days). Encourage each other to try something new and take risks.  If you have very different interests, then take turns selecting the activities to do.  

Have a Date at Home

If something comes up that makes it impossible for you to go out of the house for your date night, no worries:  Put the kids to bed early, and instead of snoozing on the couch in front of the TV, break out a board game or have a deep chat over some wine. Retire to the bedroom early and, well, you know what to do.  Remember that time together is sacred.  

You could also do date nights together even when he’s away from home. Set aside some Skype time to talk or watch a movie or play a game together.  Isn’t the internet great?

Do Something Unexpected

Plan a surprise date for your husband or wife every once in a while. Do something so utterly romantic that she can’t help but fall even more in love with you. This could include dressing up and bringing home flowers, taking her to a play, opera or ballet, or getting massages together.  You could also visit a comedy club or a local brewery or winery together. It’s all about relaxing while creating new memories.