Midlife Crisis Divorce: Don't do Something You'll Later Regret

Divorce Due to Midlife Crisis Often Leads to Regret

Midlife Crisis Lead To Divorce
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Are you experiencing any of the feelings listed below? If so, think carefully before you file for a divorce or make any major decisions concerning your life. You may be experiencing a midlife crisis. Midlife crisis is a normal life transition that can hit you emotionally like a ton of bricks and cause you to react to life and relationships in a way that is not in your best interest.

 

9 Common Feelings Experienced by Someone During a Midlife Crisis

 

1. Unhappiness with life and the lifestyle that may have provided you with happiness for many years.

2. Boredom with people and things that may have been of interest to you before.

3. Feeling a need for adventure and change.

4. Questioning the choices, you have made in your life and the validity of decisions you made years before.

5. Confusion about who you are and where you are going.

6. Anger at your spouse and feeling tied down.

7. Unable to make decisions about where you want to go with your life.

8. Doubt that you ever loved your spouse and resentment over the marriage.

9. A desire for a new and passionate, intimate relationship.

A midlife crisis can be triggered by the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job or a significant change in lifestyle. It can also be caused by childhood trauma that was never properly dealt with. Whether the feelings you are having are due to external or internal issues if you lack understanding of the process, you may find yourself making irrational decisions you will later regret.

Decisions such as leaving a job, divorcing your spouse and throwing away the security that you have built up during the first part of your life.

Research suggests that 82% of people experiencing a crisis during midlife regret divorcing and leaving their families based on irrational thinking about what their life is like at midlife.

 

 

Midlife Transitions are Normal 

 

Most of us take stock of where we are in life during midlife. Some blow their lives up out of fear of never being in a better place or, believing they've been held back by their spouse or family. 

I have a client who is experiencing a mid-life crisis. He left his wife three years ago and is spinning his wheels trying to decide where he wants to go from here. He is in his mid-fifties, had built a successful business and had a wife who was devoted to him. For some reason that he can't clearly justify, his business and marriage are the reason for his dissatisfaction. 

For three years, he has blamed his wife for the most inane issues. He always wanted to live in the mountains but, because of her was unable to do so. His wife had no idea he wanted to live in the mountains, he had never expressed that desire to her. He is blaming her for not doing something he wanted to do, even though she didn't know he wanted to live in the mountains. That is the hallmark of a midlife crisis. Anger and blame of others for your own dissatisfaction with life.

 Divorce is not the answer to mid-life unhappiness. Taking responsibility, communicating your needs and trusting your spouse to help you realize your goals is the answer.

 

Talk to your spouse, a close friend, your religious leader, family doctor or a therapist before you act on your feelings. Doing so may end up saving you and those you love a lot of emotional pain.

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