Entertainment Love and Romance How to Make Small Talk With Strangers Share PINTEREST Email Print Reza Estakhrian/Getty Images Love and Romance Friendship Relationships Sexuality Divorce Teens LGBTQ By Staff Author Updated February 25, 2018 Making small talk with strangers is required if you want to get to know people and become friends. Think about it, each one of your friends was a stranger to you at some point in your life. But still, talking with someone you don't really know yet can be daunting. It's different chatting with a stranger than people at a business function or family party, for instance. But the people you see out and about somewhere in the course of your daily routine are primate candidates for friendship. Since you don't know a thing about them, choose general subjects and use some small talk basics to slowly dig deeper until you're able to connect on a subject where you might have some mutual interest. How to Break the Ice and Make Small Talk Chatting with strangers gives you practice for those times in life where you'll need to make a really great impression. If you're used to talking with people on a routine basis, you won't be tripped up when you're nervous. Also, as Will Rogers once said, "A stranger is just a friend I haven't met yet." You never know how friendships will develop, so it's a good idea to be prepared to make the most of any opportunity. Here are some icebreakers that work well with strangers. Comment on Something in the News Remember, your goal in mentioning a news item is to find something positive to build more conversation on. Avoid topics like politics, sex, or religion, as those topics are more suited for conversation between friends. Instead, bring up a popular subject that has been getting a lot of play in the news. It's a good idea to read the paper or go online to check out the latest newsworthy topics before you leave the house so you're prepared with something to say. Compliment an Accessory Item Another tactic to open up small talk is to compliment the accessories someone is wearing: jewelry, glasses, purse, shoes, watch, tie, cufflinks, pins, etc. Avoid making a comment about someone's clothing or general appearance as it can come off as if you're acting weird or hitting on him or her. Making a genuine comment about an accessory is much more acceptable. Ask About Their Device Everyone seems to have a cell phone, computer, or another gadget on hand these days, so ask someone if they are using an iPhone or Bluetooth headset and how they like it. They're likely to tell you if they would buy the same thing again or give you the name of another version they can recommend instead. People enjoy talking about their gadgets, so it won't be difficult to get them to open up. Chat About the Weather The weather is often mentioned as something you should avoid when making small talk, but I think it is still a good opener with strangers if you use some detail. Rather than say, "Nice weather we're having," say instead, "What a warm day it turned out to be! What are you doing this afternoon? Are you able to get out and enjoy it?" Or, ask them about something regarding the weather, like: "I wasn't able to find out if it was going to rain. We've got a picnic coming up so I sure hope not. Did you happen to catch the forecast?" Restaurant Recommendations Ask someone if they can suggest a good restaurant for lunch or dinner. Say something like, "I'm taking my friend to lunch for her birthday tomorrow. Do you know a good place?" Or, "We need to find a fun but reasonably priced place to take my mom out for her birthday. Do you have a suggestion?" Asking where to eat will generally prompt someone to give you the scoop on their favorite places, which usually comes attached with more personal information, such as the parties they planned there, the fact that they go there every year for a special event, or why they like the atmosphere. They might recommend a restaurant and then add, "We go there all the time!" or "We just took my aunt there last week and she loved it." You can ask them more questions based on what they say, and this will help you continue the conversation. Not every conversation you have with a stranger will lead to a friendship down the line, but then again, you never know.