Entertainment Love and Romance How to you tell someone you like her without losing her friendship? Share PINTEREST Email Print Love and Romance LGBTQ Relationships Sexuality Divorce Teens Friendship By Kathy Belge Syracuse University Kathy Belge is a writer and coauthor of Lipstick & Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships and Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens. our editorial process Facebook Facebook Twitter Twitter LinkedIn LinkedIn Kathy Belge Updated July 14, 2017 Question: How to you tell someone you like her without losing her friendship? You like her. You're good friends. You want to let her know your feelings are stronger than just friendship, but you're afraid you'll lose her friendship. What do you do? Answer: First let's assume she knows you are a lesbian or bisexual. If she doesn't, now is a good time to come out to her. Here are some tips for bringing up the topic. Vulnerable is hard What you need to do is to ask yourself how will you handle it if she is not interested in you. Will you act dejected, hurt or embarrassed? Will this make her uncomfortable? Be strong, be confident and let her know that you have feelings for her. Listen If you are confident in yourself, you won't be devastated if she doesn't feel the same way as you. Chances are, you're going to fall for a lot of people who don't return the affection. Just as you're likely to make friends who have a romantic interest in you that you don't return. Then again, there's always the possibility she feels the same way about you. That's what the risk is all about, isn't it? Find the right time and place and tell her!