How to Tell Your Parents You Have a Boyfriend

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While you may be over-the-moon about your boyfriend and want to shout his name from the rooftops, telling your parents about your new beau can be a bit more complicated. It's not always easy to talk to your parents about your love life, and depending on the type of relationship that you have with them in general and their thoughts and opinions about dating, telling your parents about your bf can seem like a difficult, uncomfortable and awkward task. Fortunately, there are ways that you can make this conversation run far more smoothly and end far more successfully.

1. Pick the Right Time

Timing is everything when it comes to telling your parents that you have a boyfriend. Rather than choosing a time when they're running around the house, stressed or upset, it's truly to your benefit to pick a moment when they're in a good state of mind, relaxed and not in any rush. If your dad or mom comes home in a bad mood after a hard day at the office, it can be challenging for him or her to totally disconnect from the difficult day upon hearing your news — and they may see it in a far more negative light.

It's also important for you to pick a time to tell your parents when they're not totally distracted by their phones, the television or other urgent matters. In other words, if they're not going to be able to focus on you, it's not the right time to tell them.

2. Choose the Right Place

Selecting the right place to tell your parents that you have a boyfriend is also critical. Telling your parents at the supermarket, in the middle of the mall, or at any other crowded venue isn't going to work in your favor. You're not going to be able to have a deep and personal conversation, and your parents may feel blindsided by your news.

By choosing a private place that's free from distractions and interruptions, you're doing everyone a huge favor. Select a locale that allows you all to talk openly and share your thoughts. 

3. Go Face to Face

When you're going to tell your parents that you have a boyfriend, it's important that you tell them in person. While you may be used to communicating via text, email, or phone, telling your parents that you have a boyfriend is a conversation that merits actual face time. They may have many different questions and thoughts about this person and the situation in general, and they won't be able to articulate this as clearly or have a real dialogue with you if you're not sitting with them in the moment.

In addition, talking about your boyfriend in person enables them to see just how excited you are about him, and your upbeat mood and positive attitude regarding your new beau can speak volumes. 

4. Decide if It's Better to Tell Them Separately or Together

When you're ready to tell your parents that you have a boyfriend, it's up to you to determine if it's better to tell them separately or when they're together. Since you understand the nature of your relationship with each of your parents better than anyone, this is really for you to decide.

If you think that telling your mom first and then telling your dad later will be a better approach since you'll likely already have your mom as an ally, then this is the best method for you. However, if you think that telling your parents together at once is the right way given the dynamics of your relationship with them and their relationship with each other, then you should follow your gut and choose the conversation setup that makes the most sense for your particular family. 

5. Be Ready to Gush About Your Boyfriend

Before you finally sit down to tell your parents about your boyfriend, you should prepare ahead of time what you'd like to say. That means being ready to answer any potential questions that they may have about him, as well as being able to share what makes your boyfriend the greatest guy on the planet.

Having a clear idea about what you're going to say before the conversation even takes place, you'll be better able to articulate what it is about him that makes him so special.