How to Make a Relationship Last

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Relationships take work, especially if you want to keep and enjoy a healthy, happy, and long-lasting connection with your partner. And if you're wondering what you can do to help put the odds in your favor and ensure that you're with your partner for the long haul, these seven key tips can make your relationship last while creating a deeper bond between the two of you.

1. Open Up the Lines of Communication

Being able to communicate with your partner in an open and honest way is key in helping your relationship stand the test of time.

If you’re unable or unwilling to talk freely with your partner, express your true thoughts, and be vulnerable around him or her, your relationship won’t last because there isn’t a strong and solid foundation between the two of you. When you and your partner can share what’s really on your minds without the fear of recourse, rejection, or ridicule, your relationship is more likely to last in the long run.

2. Show Respect

In order for your connection with your partner to flourish, you have to fully respect each other. For instance, if you feel underappreciated, disrespected, taken advantage of, or taken for granted by your partner, your relationship will likely fail and fall to pieces because you don’t feel truly valued. On the flip side, if you both put in a concerted effort to make each other feel special, loved, and appreciated, your relationship is more likely to last going forward. Respect has to be present in the present in order for you to have a chance at a future together.

3. Spice Up Your Routine

Do you typically spend Saturday nights binge-watching shows with your partner? Are you often together in the same room but spend most of your time focusing on your phones and not really connecting? While it’s certainly okay to have this low-key, quiet time with your partner, it’s important that you and your partner don’t get into a mundane routine that sucks the excitement and passion out of your relationship.

You’re more likely to make your relationship last if you still place precedence on being spontaneous and intimate. And in order to make a relationship continue to feel fresh and have long-lasting potential, you and your partner should engage in new activities together, find opportunities to keep the flame burning, and trade in a night with Netflix for a night out on the town.

4. Keep Up the Effort

When you were first dating and getting to know each other, you both went out of your way to impress each other, please each other, and surprise each other. However, as relationships grow, change, and evolve over time, you may no longer be putting in the same amount of effort you did when the relationship began. And while it’s great that you and your partner are more comfortable around each other and have a kind of closeness that wasn’t there in the beginning, it’s imperative that you and your partner keep putting in the time, energy, and effort that you did when you started dating. You should still enjoy date nights together, keep each other on your toes, and go out of your way to make your partner happy if you want your relationship to last.

5. Take Time for Yourself

Having time for yourself and making your passions and pastimes a priority are imperative to making a relationship last.

It isn’t healthy or helpful to spend every waking moment with your partner and shut out the world around you. And you may grow to resent your mate because your relationship is preventing you from doing things that make you who you are. You and your partner don’t have to do everything together all the time, so make sure you don’t neglect what’s really important to you if you want your relationship to last.

6. Have Fun!

Being able to joke around with your partner is the cornerstone of a healthy and happy relationship. And in order for a relationship to last, this humor and excitement still has to be present. When you and your partner are able to be lighthearted and carefree with one another, this can help to sustain the connection you share during times that aren’t so funny. Relationships have their fair share of ups and downs, and if you and your partner can keep the good times flowing, this kind of camaraderie can help keep you close no matter what the future holds.

7. You Support Each Other

Do you and your partner have each other’s back? In order for you to enjoy a connection that's meaningful and long-lasting, it’s important that you both feel emotionally supported in the relationship. You should try to be each other’s biggest fans and advocates. And when you truly believe in your partner and want him or her to be happy and succeed in all aspects of his or her life, your relationship will likely be strong and secure enough to stand the test of time.