How to Make a Great First Impression with Your Partner’s Parents

Make a great first impression
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They say you never get a second chance to make a first impression, and there’s even scientific evidence demonstrating that a first impression largely influences a person’s perception of another from that point forward. So when it comes to meeting your partner’s parents, it’s never been more important to be at the top of your game and make a positive impact. So even if you’re nervous, stressed or don’t know what to expect, there are key tips to keep in mind so you can make a lasting impressive impression.

Prepare ahead of time. When meeting your partner’s parents for the first time, it’s important to enter the situation with as much information as possible. What are his or her parents’ names? What do they do? Are his or her parents divorced? Is one parent deceased? Are they close with your partner? When you head into the situation fully informed about the nuances and unique dynamic of his or her family, you’ll be better equipped to make a more dynamic first impression.

Find out the details. Along these same lines, if you’re going to meet your partner’s parents for the first time, it’s also worth finding out the general plan for the day (or night). Are you having dinner at a restaurant? Eating Sunday brunch at his or her stepmother’s house? Staying at his or her dad’s place for the weekend? Do your best to lessen any anxiety and stress that you’re feeling and go into the situation with a basic picture of what to expect.

Dress appropriately. Once you have a general idea of where you’ll be going and/or what you’ll be doing, it’s important to dress in a way that’s respectful to yourself as well as the people you’re meeting. While you may be most comfortable in yoga pants, flip flops and a torn tank top, this may not be the best clothing choice when it comes to meeting your partner’s parents for the first time.

While you shouldn’t dress in a way that’s the complete opposite of the type of person you are, you can choose suitable and appropriate attire that compliments, highlights and accentuates your awesome personality and is fitting of the situation in every respect.

Mind your manners. When meeting your partner’s family, it’s important to keep in mind some of the fundamental etiquette techniques that are crucial toward making a good first impression. It may seem simple, but saying “please” and “thank you” can speak volumes when meeting his or her parents for the first time. You should also try to refrain from staring at your phone, burping, swearing and screaming, to name a few. Since you’re spending time with his or her parents and not your BFFs from college, being well-mannered, courteous and polite can go a long way.

Bring a gift. In terms of proper manners, it’s also a good idea to bring something to your partner’s parents when you meet them for the first time instead of arriving empty-handed. While this can include flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine, you can also take it a step further by asking your mate for any specifics regarding his or her parents’ interests and taste. Perhaps his or her dad loves peanut brittle from a specific store in town.

Or maybe his or her mom spoils her dog and a present for the pooch is the perfect offering. By personalizing your gift to your mate’s parents, you’re truly presenting yourself well. 

Offer to help. If you’re looking to make a great first impression, it’s also important to show your gracious side. That means offering to set or clear the table, freshen other’s drinks or just generally inquiring if there’s anything you can do to help. This simple gesture is always much-appreciated and well-received by others, and being cordial, considerate and kind are qualities that any parent would want to see in his or her child’s partner. In a word, offering to help can actually end up helping you.

Smile. Any expert on body language can tell you that smiling is crucial to making a favorable first impression.

When you exude happiness, joy and contentment, others are more likely to feed off of your positive energy and mirror it right back to you. Even if you’re nervous, intimidated or bored out of your mind, it’s important to remember that you should stay smiling.   

Keep it light. You may have very strong opinions about certain hot-button issues, whether it’s politics, religion or any other polarizing topic. While it’s great to have strong beliefs and convictions, they aren’t necessarily the best topics of conversation when you’re meeting your partner’s parents for the first time. You shouldn’t be afraid to voice your thoughts and opinions, but that doesn’t mean turning your time together into a debate fit for primetime TV. Instead of getting argumentative and defensive around your partner’s parents, keep it light and don’t fight.

Show interest. A great way to spearhead possible conservation topics when meeting your mate’s parents is by asking them questions about themselves. Most people enjoy sharing personal facts, stories and anecdotes, and they’ll appreciate your showing interest in their past and pastimes. Don’t be afraid to inquire about how his or her parents met, their work, favorite leisure activities and more. By showing that you care, his or her parents are more likely to care for you.

Be yourself. When it comes down to it, the best way to make a great first impression is to be your best self. You should be confident and assured in yourself about what you have to offer. After all, your partner recognizes how truly amazing you are, which is why he or she wants to introduce you to his or her parents in the first place. Don’t forget that!