How to Know When a Relationship Is Over

Is It Time to Break Up?

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Relationships can have their fair share of ups and downs, but there are times when it's crucial to be able to take a closer look at your own connection with your partner to figure out if you're heading for a break up. While you may care deeply about your partner, there are six key signs that can help you determine if your relationship is in fact over and if it's time to throw in the towel and go your separate ways.

1. You're No Longer Emotionally Intimate With Your Partner

One of the key signs that your relationship is over is that you are no longer vulnerable and open with your partner. A cornerstone of any happy and healthy relationship is that you and your partner share thoughts and opinions with one another and truly open yourselves up to each other. However, if you're not interested in connecting with your partner on a deeper emotional level and no longer want to take the time to share what's truly on your mind, it's time to recognize that your relationship is over. 

2. You're No Longer Physically Intimate With Your Partner 

If you're wondering if your relationship is over, an additional sign is that you're no longer physically intimate with one another. For instance, if the passion has left your connection and you and your partner no longer desire to be with one another in an intimate way, this lack of sexual interest is often a reflection of the health and potential longevity of your relationship.

When your sex life is over, this can be a key indicator that your relationship is over as well. 

3. You Can't Seem to Agree on Anything

If you're wondering if your relationship is over, another telltale sign is that you and your partner can't see eye to eye on anything. It seems as though on any topic, big or small, you and your partner are on total opposite sides of the fence.

For instance, if you're trying to decide if you should buy or lease a car, what color to paint the bathroom, or which restaurant to go to for dinner, you and your partner can't reach an agreement, and your opinions are diametrically opposed from one another. When all you can agree on is that you can't agree on anything, this is a big indicator that your relationship is over. 

4. You Wish You Were With Someone Else

A clear sign that your relationship is over is that you long to be with a person who isn't your partner. Whether you find yourself wishing you were still with your ex, have an intense crush on someone from work, or are fixated on the idea of having a mate who isn't your current partner, it's time to recognize that your relationship is finished. You may even be engaging in an emotional affair and are focusing your time, attention, and focus on someone else. When your partner is no longer a top priority and you're constantly fantasizing about being with another person, the next best step is to break up. 

5. You Don't Trust Your Partner

An additional key indicator that your relationship is over is that you just can't seem to trust your partner anymore. Whether he or she has betrayed your trust in the past, had an affair, or never keeps his or her word, the word that should come to mind is, "breakup." When you can't trust the person who's supposed to be your teammate and ally, this major roadblock is going to prevent you from having a deep and meaningful connection with him or her.

When the trust is gone, so is your relationship.

6. Your Goals Don't Align

If you're trying to determine if your relationship is over, another clear sign is that you don't want the same things going forward. For example, if you desire to have children one day, but your partner never sees kids in his or her future, this major difference will inevitably cause your relationship to fail. When your goals don't match up and your visions of the future don't align, your relationship has actually reached the finished line.