How To Have Gay Sex

A Gay Sex Guide

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Gay sex may seem simple: give, receive, relieve. But, it is far more complicated when you consider the various degrees at which some men are ready to be intimate with other men.

Are you ready for sex with someone of the same gender? Are you ready for intimacy both emotionally as well as physically? Have you prepared to top, bottom, or looked into other ways to be intimate like frottage, rimming, or oral?

 Take some advice on some of the stages of sexual activity

Emotions

When considering emotions, some guys can be physically intimate without experiencing emotional connections. Others, however, prefer some level of emotional bonding before having sex.  Always remember this before engaging in a sexual encounter. Have you thought about where you lay on the spectrum? Either if you feel your sexual drive is stronger physically or emotionally, never feel that to be reason for shame. Don't let society's boundaries get into your head emotionally. More on sex and emotions.

Preparing to top or bottom

It's obvious how to top or bottom, isn't it? One person penetrates and the other receives. But, how do you know if you're a top or bottom? And even then, do you now how to be a good top or bottom? And, are you prepared to do either? One of the best tips to understand either role is to be comfortable while doing it, both physically and emotionally.

Always tell your partner where you stand in the spectrum.

Being and Staying Safe
Once you've chosen to have sex, there are a number of ways to reduce the risk of contracting an STD. About.com STD Guide Elizabeth Boskey, Ph.D. says, "First, you need to know yourself. Second, you need to know your partner.

And third? You need to know about condoms and safer sex." Track these safer sex tips and ways to avoid getting an STD. Never, ever, engage into a sexual activity to which you have doubts about, and make sure to take all the precautions necessary to do so. 

Types of Sex
Despite the common myth, not all gay men like anal sex. There are many ways men can be intimate with one another without having anal sex. Two very common ways are intercrural sex and frottage. Both of these types of non-penetrative sex can be used as foreplay or for complete intimacy. Having gay sex does not mean obligatory penetration and many men find it more arousing with no penetration at all.

Explore

Most of the times you don't now what you really like in sex unless you try it. Some things are easier to try than others, so make sure you find a partner (or several partners) who is up to explore it with you. Maybe both of you will discover things you did not know about yourselves before. It is important then when practicing a more exploratory sex, like bareback for example, that you do it with someone you can trust. 

So there you go! Enjoy your sex life as much as you can, discover your fetishes and play safe so you can continue to enjoy it time and time again.