How To Find True Friends

8 Qualities of a Good Friend

What are the qualities of a good friend? True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and beyond.

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A Good Friend Is Honest

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Good friends may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and how they respond in different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.

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A Good Friend Is Entertaining

This is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.

As for fun, it depends ​on how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, while others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.

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A Good Friend Is Attentive and Adaptable

A good friend a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. She can't read your mind, but chances are she can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If a good friend is aware that she's doing something that annoys you, she'll try to change her ways or at least talk to you about it.

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A Good Friend Supports You and Your Goals

Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but is he on the same page as you? Does he know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. He won't try to change who you are, drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters.

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A Good Friend Is Trustworthy

True friends won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.

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A Good Friend Clearly Cares About You

Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care. One person may give you a big hug whereas another might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and express interest.

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A Good Friend Sticks With You Through Good Times and Bad

Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch.

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A Good Friend Accepts You...and Your Faults!

In friendship, acceptance goes hand in hand with loyalty. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and knows how to deal with your quirks and faults.

Good friends are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learns how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.