How to Build Trust With Your Partner

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Trust is a vital component of any healthy, happy, and successful relationship. And in order to deepen your connection with your partner and strengthen the bond that the two of you share, it’s imperative that you’re able to truly trust one another. But how do you build trust with your partner? Fortunately, there are six key steps that’ll help you and your partner as well as help your relationship flourish as a result.

1. Be Reliable

In order for you to build trust with your partner, it’s important that you keep your word. When you’re dependable, reliable, and your partner is able to count on you, then you can count on the fact that he or she will be better able to trust you. However, if you often let your partner down and aren’t able to keep commitments to him or her, it’ll be far more difficult for him or her to have faith in you or what you say or do. For instance, if you promise your partner that you’ll accompany him or her to an event but then pull out at the very last minute, he or she won’t be able to truly take you at your word going forward.

2. Openly Communicate

If you’re looking to build trust with your partner, another key component is to openly and freely express yourself to him or her. In order to build and cultivate trust, you should place a priority on expressing your true feelings and emotions to your partner so that your connection can grow.

However, if you’re not comfortable saying what’s truly on your mind or fear revealing your actual thoughts and opinions, then your partner won’t be able to get to know the real you and the trust between you will be far more superficial.  

3. Be Honest

Another important step in the trust-building process is to be completely honest with your partner.

Think about it—if you want someone to trust you, then you have to be worthy of his or her trust. But if you’re constantly lying about your whereabouts, making things up, and fibbing to your partner, this deception and dishonesty will prevent him or her from deeming you deserving of trust. And since it’s quite difficult to trust or believe someone who has a tendency to lie or stray from the truth, it’s in the best interest of you, your partner, and your relationship to choose honesty and integrity over deceit.

4. Be Willing to Be Vulnerable

In order for you to build trust with your partner, you have to be willing and able to confide in each other. And while it may seem challenging, opening up about difficult topics and talking about your past are essential steps toward building trust in your relationship. When your partner recognizes that you’re able to be vulnerable around him or her and aren’t afraid to share things that may be hard or embarrassing to discuss, these moments are crucial for strengthening the bond and trust that the two of you share.

5. Work on Your Listening Skills

If you really want to build trust between you and your partner, listening is truly the key. If you want your partner to trust you, then he or she has to feel that what’s said actually matters to you.

But if you’re always on your phone, tend to talk over your partner, or are half-listening when you’re partner is speaking to you, then he or she won’t be able to trust you because it doesn’t seem that you even care. However, if you choose to be fully present and listen to not only what your partner is saying but how he or she’s saying it, you’re showing your partner that you’re worthy of trust and that you truly value what he or she says.

6. Understand That It Takes Time

In order to build trust between you and your partner, it’s important to keep in mind that this isn’t something that can happen overnight. Building trust with your partner, establishing a real rapport, and really getting to know someone on a deeper and more meaningful level take time. And when you’re able to recognize that this is a process, your relationship will be far more rewarding, enjoyable, and long-lasting since you’re not trying to force or rush something that has to naturally develop over time.