How to Ace a Singles Event

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Singles events are eventful opportunities for unattached individuals to meet someone new, and the good news is that there’s a wide variety of events to choose from. In fact, many different charities, dating sites, religious groups, alumni associations and other social clubs host these kinds of gatherings for gaggles of singles who are ready to mingle. And while these events can be free or are looking to raise money for an important cause or organization, these get-togethers can be terrific ways to connect with others in your area who are interested in meeting someone of interest.

However, in order for you to take the singles event scene by storm, it’s important to be aware of the five major single event do’s so that you can turn the event into a truly significant step toward meeting your significant other. 

1. Go with someone. Sure, it’s a night dedicated to those who aren't currently part of a couple, but that doesn’t mean you should arrive to the singles event alone. Having a friend by your side, whether he or she is single or not, can make your night far more fun and enjoyable, while also helping to make you feel more confident, comfortable and outgoing. Plus, having a wingman (or a wingwoman) can give you that extra little boost of self-assurance and energy that you may need to get up the guts to approach others and strike up conversations, and this kind of confidence carries over to when you’re approached as well. They say there’s power in numbers, and there’s no better way to empower yourself at your next singles event than by having a buddy and built-in support system by your side.

2. Take it easy on the booze. Alcohol seems to be ever-present at singles events, and in some instances there’s even an open bar to entice more partygoers to attend. And while many feel that keeping the liqueur flowing helps to keep the conversations flowing as well, don’t let this abundance of alcohol cause you to lose out on the entire night.

Being a sloppy drunk isn’t an attractive quality and doesn’t give off a great impression to others. And aside from the bodily harm that comes from a night of overdrinking, you risk slashing your chances of meeting someone of substance when you’re totally sloshed. So in order to maximize the prospect of making it a productive night, keep yourself to a one to two drink maximum. Why risking bombing with a cutie at the event because of too many Jäger bombs?

3. Mind your location. While it may seem appealing to go to a singles event and park yourself in one spot for the entire night, changing up the scenery is actually key to being able to see and meet as many people as possible. And in turn, it helps you to get noticed by as many other people as possible as well. So while it may be tempting to stay in one spot throughout the event, whether it’s by the bar, the dance floor or even the exit, it’s imperative that you move around the venue in order to up your chances of finding someone of interest. Is there a silent auction? A caricaturist? An ice cream bar? Remember, meeting someone special is just a numbers game, so get moving to put the odds in your favor.    

4. Pay attention to body language. A large percentage of communication is nonverbal, so if you’re looking to make a good impression at the event without having to say a word, it’s time to expand your nonverbal vocabulary with these simple tips.

First, uncross your arms. Otherwise, you’ll appear as though you’re annoyed, bored or upset. Second, smile. If your resting face makes you look pissed off, you’re turning off others who may be interested in getting to know you. Third, get off your phone. No one is going to want to approach someone who’s continually looking down at his or her phone and appears completely disinterested and checked out. By being fully and completely present, you’ll be able to present yourself well.  

5. Embrace the theme. In some instances, singles events can be based around a particular topic or theme where a dress code is suggested. Whether it’s a holiday like Halloween or a premise like a toga party, remember that when in Rome, you should hop on board and participate. It’s also an opportunity for you to show off your creative side while adding a little fun and lightheartedness to the process of meeting someone new.

Besides, going against the theme can make you look uniformed, uninterested and unapproachable. So don’t be afraid to bust out your favorite costume, strap on your gladiator sandals and have some dressed-up fun. A little bit of effort can go a long way.