6 Signs You’re Growing Apart From Your Partner

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Whether you’re in the dating phase or are in a committed relationship with your partner, you may find yourself wondering if the two of you still make sense as a couple. For instance, perhaps things simply seem off, difficult or forced when you’re together, and/or you’re finding it harder and harder to imagine a future with your significant other. And when these kinds of thoughts and doubts emerge in your mind, it’s never been more important to be able to recognize the six key signs that you and your partner are actually drifting apart from one another.

1. You’re not paying attention to your partner when you’re together.

If you’re wondering if you’re growing apart from your partner, one of the clear signs is that you’re no longer interested in and/or paying attention to him or her when you’re spending time together. For instance, you may find that your mind wanders when he or she’s talking, you don’t pay attention to the particulars or details he or she mentions to you and you choose to place your focus on your phone or on the TV in order to avoid having to listen to this person. In other words, when you’re no longer interested in the actual words that you’re partner is saying, it’s time to say to yourself that you’re drifting apart from him or her.

2. You don’t feel like doing any favors for him or her.

Another key indicator that you’re growing apart from your partner is that you no longer care to go out of your way for this person. For instance, while you used to perform random acts of kindness, do special favors for him or her and/or engage in activities and attend functions that are of importance to him or her, you no longer feel the need to do anything that puts his or her needs first.

And when you don’t truly care about your partner’s feelings, wants and desires, you should pay attention to your own feelings and recognize that you’re drifting apart.

3. You can’t agree on anything.

While it’s actually important for couples to have opinions that differ from time to time, a clear sign that you’re drifting apart is that you can’t find anything on which you agree.

In fact, if you’re on opposite stances when it comes to almost every topic and your conversations with one another seem to always turn into heated arguments and debates, it’s time to throw in the towel and recognize that you and your partner are drifting apart. Remember, when you and your partner no longer see eye to eye, you should know in your heart that you’re heading in separate directions.  

4. You’d rather spend time without your partner.

An additional sign that you and your partner are drifting apart can literally be found in your desire to physically separate yourself from him or her. In other words, if you’re constantly seeking out opportunities to be without this person, don’t look forward to being with him or her and find yourself putting off activities that involve the two of you, it should come as no surprise that you’re actively growing apart from your partner.  

5. You’re no longer physically intimate.

With this in mind, another key sign that you and your partner are drifting apart is that you’re no longer physically intimate with one another. However, being intimate with your partner is an integral part of building a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship. So if you’re sensing that you no longer want to be with this person in this kind of close and personal way, it’s clear that you and your partner are drifting in different ways, and it’s time to part ways.

6. You’re no longer emotionally intimate.

Along these lines, an additional indicator that you’re growing apart from your partner is that you no longer want to open up to him or her. In other words, when you don’t want to share details of your day, aren’t interested in letting him or her know your true feelings or thoughts about a particular subject and don’t want to be bothered with opening up to him or her, these are tell-tale signs that you’re drifting apart. Remember, successful and meaningful relationships are built on trust, honesty and openness, so if you no longer feel the need to take these important steps, it’s clear that you’re stepping down a different path from your partner.