Great Date Ideas for Gay Teens

There's More Than Just the Movies!

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lesbian teens kissing. Image (c) Philip Leroyer

There are a lot of great date ideas for gay teens that include everything from seeing a movie to attending a gay pride event, or having a picnic in the park.

Dating can put on the pressure, but like so many other things in life, being prepared helps a lot. No one wants to get asked out and then have to come up with an idea for what to do. At the same time, no one wants to date a control freak who doesn't seem to care about anyone else's ideas. So how do you strike a balance? One solution is to think of a few things that you and your date might be into and offer a some options!

The First Date

As if screwing up your courage and asking out your crush wasn't hard enough, you then have to come up with an idea for the first date. Do you go for romance? Something chill, fun, or private? In general it's best to avoid going over the top on a first date. Roses, dinner and dancing might be nice in theory, but the energy and expense involved can be overwhelming. Plus, if you don't click, then that's a whole lot of time you'll need to spend making small talk! That being said, movies generally aren't the best first date idea as they don't give you a lot of time to talk and get to know the other person. Getting a coffee (or soda or cupcake) and taking a walk in the park can be just as fun and way less pressure.

The Group Date

Speaking of pressure, going out in a group can be less pressure than going solo. Plus, your parents might be more comfortable with the idea of a bunch of teens hanging out together.

Remember though, introducing your new boyfriend or girlfriend to a huge group of your friends at once can be a bit overwhelming for him or her. So, at least in the beginning, keeping the crowd a manageable size can make things more comfortable for both of you.

The Gay Community Activity

If you live somewhere with an active gay community, this can be a fun thing to incorporate into a date. Is there a gay and lesbian community center? A GLBT film festival or pride parade coming up? You can also find out if there are any gay teen dances or events in your area. Who knows, your town might just be hosting a gay prom.

Public or Private

Are you are your date out about being gay? If so, you might be comfortable doing just about anything. You can hit the zoo, a bowling alley or the skating rink, for example. But if you aren’t out, you might have a better time somewhere that you can relax without constantly looking over your shoulder. Try to brainstorm places where you won't worry about who will see you.

A Note on Dating Safety

Unfortunately, it is also important to consider your safety when thinking about what to do on a date. Ideally, you'd be able to go anywhere at anytime and kiss or hold hands with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But if you know your classmates are homophobic, it might not be a great idea to go to a school event where you might be harassed or even put in danger. Dating is hard enough, the last thing you want to do is make a tough situation even harder by having to put up with homophobia!