Divorce Guide For Women

A Step by Step Divorce Guide for Women

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Divorce is usually a one-sided decision which catches a wife off guard. Very rarely do couples sit down and come to the decision to end their marriage together. In most situations a wife is left to struggle with the consequences of her husband’s decision to file for a divorce. It isn’t easy to deal with the admission by a husband that he no longer wants to be in the marriage.

Such rejection is a huge blow to a woman’s emotional equilibrium.

She is left with sleepless nights, feelings of rejection and a deep desire to fix the problems in her marriage. This article will help you by giving advice from a woman and mother’s point of view. You will find links to articles that will guide you through commonly faced problems women deal with during the divorce process.

When a Crisis Leads to Divorce:

  • What is a Midlife Crisis?
  • How to Respond to Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis
  • Setting Boundaries With a Husband in Midlife Crisis
  • Taking Care of Yourself During Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis

Coping With the Emotional Aspects of Divorce:

The process of divorce is a legal one. There is no place in that legal process for negative emotions. The most important thing a woman can do is deal with the emotional aspect of divorce in a way that doesn’t allow interference with the legal issues.

In other words, you need a clear head, a thought process that is led by logic not anger or fear.

The only way to keep emotions from co-mingling with the legal process is to learn good coping strategies. Don’t bury your emotions, don’t deny feelings, work through them so that you can be at your best when fighting for your legal divorce rights. Below are links to article that you will find helpful.

  • Tips For Dealing With Stress During Divorce
  • Nine Tips For Taking Care of Yourself During and After Divorce
  • Recognizing The Emotional Stages of Divorce

Navigating the Legal Process of Divorce:

So, where do you start once you’ve dealt with issues of the heart? With a divorce attorney of course! And, being a woman you are going to need a good divorce attorney. You’ve got a lot to consider and a lot to protect. BUT, if you have a good divorce attorney, one who has good negotiating skills you can protect all those assets you and your husband have acquired through the years. Take a look below for articles that will help you hire a divorce attorney that will advocate for you.

  • Which is Right For You, Mediation of a Divorce Attorney?
  • How to Find a Divorce Attorney
  • Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Divorce Attorney
  • The Top 5 Things to Consider When Hiring a Divorce Attorney
  • What Kind of Experience Should a Divorce Attorney Have?

Protecting Your Child Custody Rights During Divorce:

As I said above, the Family Court system can be biased against women when it comes to child custody. Change is afoot though and fathers who are willing to go the extra mile are gaining more time with their children after divorce.

More and more fathers are gaining 50/50 custody and in some cases legal custody of their children.

Below are links to articles about shared parenting and custody after divorce. It is imperative that every mother AND father realize the importance of their role in a child’s life. When hiring an attorney make sure he/she understands your desire to put your children’s best interest first which, in most cases will mean equal parenting time for both you and your husband.

  • The Importance of Equal Parenting
  • Shared Parenting Myths
  • U. S. Child Custody and Support Laws
  • Types of Child Custody
  • Child Support Calculators by State

What to Expect During the Divorce Process:

The steps you will go through during the divorce process will depend upon the district you live in. Every state has differing divorce laws and every county has its own procedure.

Your divorce attorney will be able to and should be willing to walk you through what the divorce process will be like for you. Below is a link to an article that will give you an idea of what to expect in most cases.

  • Steps Involved in the Divorce Process

Understanding the Division of Marital Assets:

When dividing property during divorce a court will first determine if the property is marital or non-marital property. This can be a very complicated process and is dealt with according to your state's laws. Below, you will find articles that address marital property and how it is distributed during divorce.

  • How is Property Divided in an Equitable Distribution State?
  • Issues Surrounding the Division of Marital Assets
  • What is a QDRO?
  • Divorce Settlement and the IRS
  • How to Negotiate the Best Possible Divorce Settlement Agreement