Reasons to Dance With Your Spouse

One of the Secrets to a Successful Marriage

Dancing Couple
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Dancing may be the secret of a successful marriage. You may be inspired by dancing in movies or "Dancing With the Stars" to take up dancing with your spouse.

10 Reasons to Dance With Your Spouse

Dancing promotes healthy living and romance. It doesn't make any difference what type of dancing the two of you do. Any style of dancing is beneficial. Here are reasons to take up dancing:

  • Dancing together is an excellent way to exercise. Many forms of dancing are moderately-intense exercise, burning from 250 to 400 calories in an hour, similar to brisk walking. Others can be vigorous-intensity exercise. It's common for "Dancing With the Stars" contestants to lose a significant amount of weight from the hours of dance practice.
  • Dancing together is good for your heart, both physically and romantically.
  • Dancing together creates another way for the two of you to connect with each other. As you dance together, your eyes meet, your bodies are close together, and you can feel one another breathing.
  • When you dance, you hold and touch one another for longer than a quick hug.
  • Dancing together can put you both in a sensual mood. It is sexy and can stir your inner sexuality.
  • Dancing can build your self-esteem, which is good for your marriage relationship.
  • Dancing lessons and going out dancing provides time alone for the two of you. Making time to dance together gives the two of you time away from chores, children, job, and the stress of your lives.
  • Dancing together requires the two of you to work together as a team.
  • Dancing is a fun activity that the two of you can enjoy together.
  • When dancing together you have to pay attention to one another and communicate both verbally and non-verbally with one another.

    Dancing Tips

    If you are ready to start dancing, follow this advice:

    • Don't come up with an excuse to not dance. You can dance, no matter how old you are, how fit you are, how tall or short you are, or how large or small you are.
    • Wear comfortable, lightweight clothing. Your shoes should provide good support and should allow you to slide on the floor without sticking.
    • Make sure that the dance floor is not sticky, slick, or made of concrete.
    • Accept that as you begin to learn how to dance with your spouse, you both may be a bit klutzy. You will be more graceful with one another as you learn to move together with the music.
    • Let go of any desire to be a perfectionist about your dancing. Just enjoy dancing.
    • If your last dance lesson was in 6th grade, let go of that perception of a dance class, and sign up for dance lessons together.
    • If you are not already actively exercising, check with your physican before you start dance lessons.

    How to Find Dance Lessons

    Where can you go to learn how to dance? Use these tips to find a class:

    • Choose the style of dancing you want to learn.
    • Check out the adult education opportunities at your local community center. Many offer dance lessons.
    • Many health clubs and gyms offer dance-based classes.
    • Check online or in the Yellow Pages for dance studios nearby that offer ballroom dancing lessons.
    • If you are in the senior citizen age bracket, you can probably get free dance lessons at your local senior center.