Entertainment Love and Romance Chapstick Lesbian Share PINTEREST Email Print Love and Romance LGBTQ Relationships Divorce Teens Friendship By Kathy Belge Kathy Belge Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Syracuse University Kathy Belge is a writer and coauthor of Lipstick & Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships and Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens. Learn about our Editorial Process Updated on 12/31/11 Definition: A chapstick lesbian is also known as a soft butch or androgynous. She usually dresses quite casually and does not wear make-up. The term Chapstick Lesbian was popularized after an episode of the TV show Ellen. Someone asked Ellen if she were a lipstick lesbian or what. Ellen replied, she was more of a chapstick lesbian.