6 Challenges Divorced, Single Moms Face

A glimpse into the lives of divorced, single moms.

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If you are a divorced, single mom, you’ve had to heal from the pain of your divorce plus take on the responsibility of doing the majority of the childcare. You also have to put food on the table, a roof over the family’s head and, at times deal with an irrational ex-husband. On top of those things, you naturally want to date and hopefully enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

 

Below are the 6 most common challenges facing divorced, single moms today.

 

As with any other life challenge they meet them head on and don’t let the dust settle under their feet. Doing that is easier with support and advice so, I’ve put together a few articles that will help them meet those daily challenges and move past your divorce and onto a rich, rewarding new life.

1. Healing the Pain of Divorce:

Part of moving on to a new life is healing the pain left from the old one. Staying stuck in old pain limits one's possibilities. The links below lead you to articles and information that will guide you along on your path to healing.

  • How to Heal The Pain of Divorce
  • How to Bounce Back From an Unwanted Divorce
  • Tips For Moving on After Divorce
  • A Formula For Getting Back to Great After Divorce
  • Accepting Divorce as a Reality

2. Parenting After Divorce:

Parents who are divorced have a difficult time, but one of their major concerns is how to lead their children through the process divorce in a healthy way so that they feel loved, nurtured, and protected.

The links below are to articles that will help you, as a single mother, help your child during and after the divorce process. The healthier the divorce process is for your child, the easier that child will be to parent after divorce.

  • How to Keep Divorce From Having Negative Effects on Your Child
  • How to Make Co-Parenting Work
  • How to Meet Your Child’s Needs After Divorce
  • Tips For Single Parents
  • Tips For Surviving Holidays as a Divorced, Single Parent

3. Food on the Table and a Roof Over Your Head:

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the average woman’s family income drops by 37% after divorce. In other words, women suffer more financially than men do from divorce. If you are a woman thinking about divorce I suggest you do some serious financial planning before filing. If you are a woman already divorced, I have some suggestions that will hopefully help you survive the loss of income and get your finances in order.

  • Supporting Yourself After a Divorce
  • How to Budget Your Money After a Divorce
  • Tips For Returning to The Job Force After a Divorce
  • Finding a Part-Time Job After Divorce

4. Dating as a Single, Divorced Mom:

Divorce can leave you reeling, but when you start to pick up the pieces of your life and decide to move back into dating, it can feel a bit strange. If you were married for a long time, you may even feel too intimidated to try dating again. Have no fear, I’m hear with the advice you need to transition for wife to seasoned dater.

  • Are You Ready for a New Relationship?
  • Beware the Rebound Relationship
  • Introducing Dating Into Your Child’s Life
  • How to Get Back Into the Dating Scene
  • Dating Rules to Live By
  • How to Date After Divorce and Handle Rejection

5. Sex and the Single, Divorced Mom:

There is nothing like a troubled marriage and the stress of divorce to get a person off their game…sexually speaking. Below you will find articles, tips and advice to help you get back in the game with a new sexual partner.

  • Questions to Ask Yourself Before Engaging in Casual Sex
  • Sex After Divorce: Always Carry Latex Condoms & Play Safe
  • Your Underwear Drawer Needs to Move on so You Can Too

6. Dealing With an Irrational Ex-Husband:

Not all but some single, divorced moms have to continue to deal with conflict and chaos after the divorce is final due to irrational actions by an ex-husband. If they divorced someone with a personality disorder such as narcissism or passive aggressive behavior, they may find themselves tied up in court for years over issues such as child custody, visitation and non-payment of child support.

 

If this is happening, here are a few resources you will find helpful. 

  • Surviving Emotionally While Divorcing a Narcissist
  • What is a High Coflict or Malignant Divorce?
  • How to Co-Parent With a Narcissist
  • 4 Things to Expect When Divorcing a Passive Aggressive Spouse
  • What You Need to Know About Unpaid Child Support