Can a Man Really Be Bisexual?

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Bisexual individuals are sexually and romantically attracted to people of other genders and people of their own gender. Bisexuals can be male or female, cisgender, transgender, or non-binary.

The term bisexual emerged in the 19th century, but people have always been attracted to both genders. In many cultures, bisexuality was seen as a natural expression of sexuality. Ancient Greece is often cited as an example of a culture that accepted and expected bisexuality.

Though bisexuality is often assumed to be a stepping stone on the way to being gay or lesbian, it is a sexual orientation in its own right.

Not Just a Girl Thing

Sometimes people think only girls, not guys, can be bisexual; however, it is totally possible to be a bisexual male.

Have you ever heard that girls can be bisexual, but that guys who claim to be bi are just trying to deny the fact that they are actually gay? If you have, you're not alone. That's because a lot of people believe a lot of misinformation about men and sexual orientation.

Unfortunately, there are many common myths about bisexual men. These include:

  • Bisexuality is only a phase
  • Bi men have to choose to be either gay or straight
  • Bisexual men are sexually confused

These are a few of the reasons people think that there is no such thing as a bisexual male. Here are some others:

  1. Many of the people making this assumption are basing it on their own experiences. Either they are gay men who have never been attracted to women or they are hetero men who have never been attracted to guys.
  2. For some people, there is still more of a stigma to being gay than there is to being a lesbian. So they may assume that it would be more likely for a man to "put off" admitting he was gay by saying he was bisexual than it would be for a woman to do so.
  3. There is a cultural sexualization of bisexual women that doesn't usually extend to men. As a result, more people understand bisexual desires in women than they do in men.
  4. The power of myth. If enough people repeat that a man can't be bisexual, but a woman can, then it begins to sound like fact.

Misleading Studies

To complicate matters further, a 2005 study out of Northwestern University found that "with respect to sexual arousal and attraction, it remains to be shown that male bisexuality exists."

That study fed fuel to the fire of those who claim that men cannot really be bisexual. It also caused a lot of grief for the plenty of guys out there who know that they attracted to both men and women.

But in 2011, the same university released the findings of a study demonstrating exactly the opposite. As the researchers explained, their current findings provided evidence that some men who identify themselves as bisexual are, indeed, aroused by both women and men.

Still as Jim Larsen of the Bisexual Organizing Project told the New York Times:

"It's great that they've come out with affirmation that bisexuality exists. Having said that, they're proving what we in the community already know. It's insulting. I think it's unfortunate that anyone doubts an individual who says, This is what I am and who I am."

What it All Comes Down To

Ultimately, despite what a lot of people think, both men and women can be bisexual.