Is He Boyfriend Material?

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When you’re dating a guy you really like, you may start to daydream and fantasize about calling him your boyfriend one day. But before you decide to promote him to boyfriend status, how can you be sure if he’s really boyfriend material after all? In order to determine if he’s the bf that you truly want and deserve, it’s important to be able to recognize the seven key traits that make any boyfriend a great boyfriend.

1. He Listens to You

Before you decide that your guy is boyfriend material, you should take a moment to reflect on your conversation style and communication skills and techniques as a couple. Does your guy truly listen to what you have to say? Is he present and in the moment with you or do you find that he's distracted, that you have to repeat yourself, and that you're often competing for his full and undivided attention? When a guy is truly boyfriend material, it means that he's mature enough to place his focus on you and be a great listener. And whether he’s lending an ear or a shoulder to cry on, his ability to listen to you, understand you, empathize with you, and support you are all necessary qualities in a boyfriend.

2. He Treats You With Respect

On a scale from one to ten, how does your guy treat you? If he’s the type of man who's respectful, kind, and considerate, he should definitely be considered boyfriend material. However, if he has a tendency to put you down, treat you with disdain, or act in a controlling or jealous manner at times, this guy doesn’t respect you and certainly isn’t worthy of you or your time. Mutual respect is a key component of a happy, healthy, and long-lasting relationship, and if he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t deserve you.

3. He’s Trustworthy

In order for a man to be boyfriend material, he has to work to earn your trust. For example, if he's reliable, is completely honest with you, and opens up about different aspects of his life and his past, he’s actually showing you that he wants to build a deeper connection. When a guy chooses to fully let you in and allows himself to be completely vulnerable around you, this is a man who’s worth elevating to boyfriend status. Being able to trust a guy with your heart is a major step, and when he’s emotionally open and available for you and can be counted on, he’s making it easier for you to see that he’s worth calling your boyfriend.

4. He Surprises You

Does your guy go out of his way to do favors for you and keep you on your toes? When a man places a high priority on your happiness and finds different ways, big and small, to bring a smile to your face, he’s definitely boyfriend material. When a man is truly interested in you and devoted to you, he’ll go above and beyond to make your life better, happier, and easier. Whether he’s surprising you with movie tickets, lending a helping hand to fix a broken computer, or going the extra mile for you to pick up your dry-cleaning, he’s definitely interested in being with you for the long haul.

5. He’s Your Biggest Fan

In order for you to consider your man to be boyfriend material, it’s important to consider his words and his actions when it comes to you and your accomplishments. When a man truly has your back, is proud of what you’ve achieved (and will achieve), and is your biggest advocate and staunch supporter, he’s definitely worth promoting to boyfriend-hood. On the flip side, if he’s intimidated by your success, doesn’t see you as an equal, and always has to be the center of attention no matter the circumstances, he’s certainly not boyfriend material or even friend material. 

6. He Brings Out the Best in You

Are you your authentic self when you’re around this guy? If you’re wondering if your man is boyfriend material, it’s important to look inward and reflect on how you act when you’re together. If you can be your true self around him and aren’t holding back in any way, feigning interests, or playing a part or role, then he’s certainly worthy of being your boyfriend. However, if you're not comfortable around him or able to be the person you really are when you're together, then this isn’t the man for you. 

7. You Want the Same Things

In order to have long-term potential, it's imperative that you and your guy have a conversation in the short-term about what you want in a relationship. For instance, while you may think that your man is boyfriend material, he may actually be seeking to have an open relationship or something far less serious than what you'd like at this point in your life. If you want to avoid future heartbreak, you should sit down together and discuss your goals and what you both want going forward before you decide to call him your boyfriend.