Best Gay Untraditional Date Ideas

Tired of the same old coffee shop, movies and dinner date routine? Try these alternative date ideas.

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A day at the beach or park.

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Get sand between your toes or roast some dogs at the beach or park. Surprise your date with a picnic for two. Most home stores like Bed, Bath, and Beyond or Crate & Barrel sell those nifty old school picnic baskets. Fill it with your favorite wine, a few sandwiches and some chocolate covered strawberries. If your date is more of a man's man, take along a small portable grill and some steaks or fish. Then let him show you how to grill it to perfection.

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A roller coaster ride.

I'm not talking about the emotional roller coaster many relationships become, but an actual roller coaster ride to get it started. Visit a nearby Six Flags or Disney park. You can learn a lot about your date by the type of ride he enjoys. Test his skill level, too, by making him win you one of those big teddy bears.

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Rollerskating or bowling.

Redefine striking out at the bowling lane or let him talk you in circles around the roller rink. Even though there are other people around, sharing a lane or skating side by side is a fun way to keep a conversation going. Roller or bowling dates are a great way to determine if your date is easygoing, adventurous, or a prude.

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Live like the rich and famous.

Plan an overnight or daytime stay in a remote town or resort community. Can't afford to visit Club Med? Book a higher end downtown hotel room and live like a rich and famous couple for the day. Wine and dine in the restaurant, enjoy the pool and the nighttime entertainment. If things go well, plan to stay. If not, walk out the revolving doors like nothing happened.

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Taste some wine.

Learn about wine and your dates fruity flavors at a wine tasting event. These events are relaxing and enjoyable. Sit for a while and talk about what you both enjoy in life while tasting some of the world's best wines. You don't have to live near a vineyard to enjoy a good tasting. is a great directory of wine events in your city. Prices can range from the less intimidating $5 a person to the exclusive upper hundreds.

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Any book signing.

Most smaller and big chain bookstores hold book signings quite frequently. Visit the bookstore before your date and ask for their calendar. Even if you've never heard of the author, take your date. You don't have to buy a book, but it will give you an opportunity to spend quality time with your date. Roam the aisles and talk about what genre of books you like or make fun of the crazy book covers.

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Cafe poetry readings.

Those cool dark cafes you see in the movies with the poets singing their sultry lyrics actually exist. Ask your local coffee shop about their events and the artists. They may feature a poet, a band or a poet with a band on any given night. Grab a cup of joe for you and your date, take in some poetry or an indie band and comment on how cool you both feel.

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Horseback riding.

You and your date can live out your Brokeback fantasies. offers a list of campsites that allow horseback riding. You don't even have to ride the horse to have a good time. Walk him, then tie him down and sit in the grass with your date like an old western love story.

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Pick your own.

It pays to get a little dirty with your date. Most states have farms where you can pick your own fruit. Pick pumpkins, watermelon, strawberries or corn. You'll both enjoy this activity together. Stay on the farm and enjoy the scenery or take your picks home and make smoothies together. is a good place to start your search for pick-your-own farms.

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See a musical.

Seeing a movie at the theater is dated. Go see live theater or a musical. Get tickets to a traveling group or see a local production. Most cities have community theater groups that have year-round performances. You'll be surprised by the local talent. Who knows, your date may surprise you with a few talents of his own.