Best Friend Benefits

Pros and Cons of Best Friends

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There are many benefits to having a best friend, of course, but what about the not so cool things? While having a best friend, or one pal that you hang out with more than your other friends, can be a great way to explore the boundaries of friendship, there can also be things that are negative about it. 

When we think of best friends, we think it's all about one person who will be there when we want to hang out or when we need some support, but you can always expect someone else to fulfill your emotional needs.

It's important to realize that being independent helps you find friendships that allow you to be yourself without restriction. Best friends can do that, too, if you chose the right ones and for the right reasons. 

Here are some pros and cons to keep in mind when you have best friends. You want a pal to life more fun and bring out the best in you, but not someone that will limit you or make you become someone you're not. 

Pro: You'll Have a Genuine Relationship

First, the positive points. A best friend is someone whom you are closest to. You share a lot in common, have the same sense of humor, or share a similar outlook on life. One of the most positive things about this type of friendship is the "safety" of it. Quite simply, you are able to be yourself because your best friend accepts you just as you are. 

Best friend relationships are almost like a platonic marriage, with both people committed to making things work for the long haul.

The people involved respect and care for each other and help bring out the best in the other person. 

Pro: Arguments Are Easy to Move On From

Any two people in a relationship are going to argue from time to time, but in a best friend situation the arguments are usually few and far between and easier to get over.

This is because the two friends work to resolve the argument with the objective of making their friendship better. They don't try to "win," but rather aim to understand the other person's side of things.

Remember, everyone argues! So do best friends. It's not the arguing that is bad, it is how you do it. Always argue respectfully with every one of your friends.

Pro: Easy Companionship

With a best friend, you always have someone to do things with. If you see an activity you'd like to do, you don't have to wonder who you could invite because you know your bestie will probably want to go with you. Moreover, best friends can usually just hang out and have a good time. They don't need to plan an involved event to be entertained.

Con: Having a Best Friend May Limit Your Other Friendship Opportunities

If you and your friend are so close that you shut out any new friendships from forming, you're doing yourself a disservice. The benefit of a best friend is that you feel comfortable in yourself, which should encourage you to seek out other friendships. But this can backfire if you and your pal are so close you never make new friends.

Con: You May Forget How to Make Small Talk

Making small talk is a skill, and if you're not going outside your comfort zone to chat with new people on a regular basis, it can be tougher to strike up a conversation.

If you have a best friend that you hang with 24/7, you may think small talk is useless. But make no mistake, small talk helps you with work colleagues, acquaintances, and friends alike, so if you and your bestie are together a lot, practice making small talk with people you meet in passing.

Stuck in a Rut With Activities

Just like an old married couple, best friends that have been together for a long time may fall into a rut when it comes to the activities they participate in. Some friends may even fail to go out like they used to, and instead just hang out at home. It's okay to relax with your friend, but be sure to continue enjoying all that life offers. Don't get stuck in one place where you no longer experience new things or engage in your favorite hobbies.