How to Become Friends With Your Neighbors

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Very few of us actually take the time to meet our neighbors but it is one of the best ways to make new friends. After all, you live by them, you see them pretty much every day, and you share a love of your city and state. Why not become friends with your neighbors? 

Look for Opportunities to Talk to Neighbors

You can't meet your neighbors if you're always inside your house. Spend a little time outside and when you see your neighbor, walk over and introduce yourself. 

If you initiate a conversation and show that you're willing to help, your neighbors will be more apt to look to you when they have questions, or when they want someone to talk to. Sometimes the hardest thing about making new friends is the very first step.  If you show that you're friendly and open to conversation, your neighbor will be encouraged to get to know you.

Don't Be Annoying

Be cognizant of what it's like to live by you. In other words, pay attention to the things you do that could bother one of the neighbors. These might include:

  • Letting your dog or cat wander around other people's yards
  • Playing music loudly
  • Having noisy parties
  • Walking around in your yard without proper clothing on
  • Not keeping up your yard or house
  • Letting your children run around other people's yards

If your neighbor finds you annoying to be around, he won't want to get to know you better.

Invite Your Neighbor Out

While the obvious solution toward meeting your neighbor might be to invite them to dinner at your place, sometimes it's more comfortable for everyone to meet out the first time. This gives you something else to talk about during your first visit hanging out together.

Don't make your plans overly elaborate. Too much formality can prevent a true bond from being formed. If dinner or coffee won't work, see if they want to pop over to the local farmer's market or community festival. Make your first couple of meetings short, so you can get to know each other in small doses. Every friendship needs to progress at its own pace, so rather than a home invite, choose a casual, comfortable place close to each of your houses.

Find Ways to Be Kind

Bringing over baked goods or a pot roast to your neighbor might sound like an old-fashioned cliché, but the gesture behind the gift is a good goal when it comes to friending your neighbors. Look for small ways you can be kind to them, and a friendship will eventually develop. Some ideas include:

  • Dropping off flowers for a birthday or special event
  • Letting your neighbor know about a special sale at a local store
  • Bringing over baked goods
  • Giving them a book they might like to read
  • Giving a small gift basket
  • Giving movie tickets
  • Giving seed packets or small plants to start a garden

Choose the gift wisely, and opt for something small. Too large or expensive a gift and your neighbor might feel pressured to do something for you in return. The idea is to do something thoughtful, not make your neighbor feel obligated to return the gesture.

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