Entertainment Love and Romance Advantages and Disadvantages of Baby Adoption vs. Older Child Adoption Which is Best Suited for You and Your Family? Share PINTEREST Email Print Thomas Barwick / Getty Images Love and Romance Relationships Sexuality Divorce Teens LGBTQ Friendship By Carrie Craft WIOA Youth Coordinator Wichita State University Carrie Craft been an educator in the field of adoption and foster care since 1996. She has a wealth of relevant personal and professional experience. our editorial process Carrie Craft Updated April 04, 2017 There are many advantages and disadvantages to a baby adoption vs. an older child adoption. Consider the following: Shorter Wait - There are many older children in need of homes. This may mean a shorter wait for you, as well as knowing that you have helped a waiting child find her forever family. What a rewarding feeling!Discover Special Needs Sooner - An older child adoption may mean that you have the opportunity to discover the child's special needs early. Possible fewer "surprises" when it comes to behaviors and/or disabilities than with infant or toddler adoptions, when it may take years for these needs to fully surface.Life History - In most older child adoptions the child will know his birth parents and history. This is helpful in handling a child's past and grief issues. This will also help the child to move on with his life.Help with Life Books - Many adopted children crave information regarding their birth parents. This information may be the only link back or connection to a child's birth family. An adoptive parent will need to make it a priority to form a life book for the child as soon as possible to help with this important connection. An infant or toddler may not have this knowledge to add into a life book. Even when abuse or neglect has occurred in a child's past, many children still love their birth parents. A simple picture of a birth parent or a memory book of happy times together may help in healing old wounds.Done With Baby Stuff! - With older children, there is hopefully no potty training! Older children are also ready to be involved in family activities such as sports or camping. You can share more of your interests with older children. However: Forming Bonds - With an older child adoption you will not get the chance, within the important, formative, first few months of life to form a valuable attachment or bond with the child.Learning as You Go - With older child adoptions you will not have the opportunity to "grow-up" with your child. My husband and I were very young to be the parents of the children we adopted. We found that we were still growing up ourselves while raising teen boys. If they were our birth children we would be at least 15 years older and perhaps a little wiser in our dealings with the teen years.Teaching Opportunities - With older child adoptions you will not have the opportunity to teach the children your values and morals at an early age. In fact, you may have to do a lot of "un-teaching" of values you don't agree with or with values that are not appropriate.Educational Needs - With an older child adoption you may be playing catch-up with the child's education, emotional, and spiritual development. It is always a lot of work and many times frustrating, but often times worth the battle. Whether you choose a baby adoption or an older child adoption, both options are a wonderful way to add to your family, each with advantages and disadvantages.