Attracting the Virgo Woman

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The Virgo gal is inscrutable, with no big showy outward signs of interest. That makes the Virgo woman a special case, requiring patience and luck since it mostly comes down to timing. The hermit-like nature of Virgo makes them reticent to merge lives. A Virgo who has been hurt will double down on solo life and its benefits.  

Above all, a Virgo is a realist, who will size up whether you share -- realistically -- values and plans for the future. You might be surprised how easy it is to talk frankly to your Virgo crush, about whether you're compatible or not.  Her frank manner lets you know where you stand.  

Her physical presence is alluring, so finely tuned and all-natural. You'll sense not to rush in too quickly. A rule here is to give it time, and don't pester them about whether they're enjoying themselves or not.  

You impress the lady Virgo by showing your finesse in adapting to her needs at the moment. Her sign is mutable, making her nature changeable, and she'll relax with someone who is flexible that way. Virgo is the planners of the Zodiac, so you win points if you put thought into first dates.  

Less Is More

Are you tidy? Do you have good manners? She's watching closely! She's picky in many ways, and this helps her keep her standards high. In love, she uses cool discernment to observe, take mental notes, and this takes time. The traits she's looking for are integrity, kindness and inner strength. She steers clear of loose cannons, lazy or apathetic types, and those with no moral compass. Take it slow, and give her enough of you to digest in one sitting. 

She needs a patient suitor who gives her time to know if she likes you or not. A deciding factor is how well you fit into her established routine. She's a creature of habit, maybe a bit obsessively so. Get to know her by jumping into her groove, instead of disrupting her schedule (a no-no).   


The Virgin is self-contained, whole. She stands apart and can seem cold, but it's because she needs to stay clear in order to make constant refinements to her body, mind, and spirit. Her body is like a subtle antenna, picking up signals about how to go forward. This can lead to what seems like peculiar rigidity with the routine.

She can eat some things, but not others, and it gets complicated. It pays to be perceptive, and become aware of her dining habits, as it'll dictate where you can go on dates. You'll get extra points for making the sensible choice.

Her focus is precise, and that's why she'll appreciate your notice of the little things.  You win points with practical little gifts that show you've paid attention. She doesn't like upsetting surprises, so don't make a spectacle on her birthday in a public place. What deepens her affection is the way you bring ease to her life, and encourage her never-ending plans for self-improvement.

Mercurial Miss

The Virgo woman is smart and likes to follow a rational line of thinking. You'll impress her by speaking intelligently, with good grammar. She's not one to agree, just to stroke your ego, and she'll be questioning until all the facts are well-researched.

Virgo's traditional ruler is Mercury, and your Virgo crush can be mercurial -- analytical, erudite and in some cases bookish.  Even so, she's not one to do backflips over an idea, and that lack of passion can be deflating. But if you prove over time that you're mentally competent, her respect for your opinion will shine through.

Show, Don't Tell

Virgo is an earth sign, and in love, they tend to seek stability. Your Virgo love is more impressed by the sincere effort, than by a lot of boasting about plans. The Virgin has an instinct for wholeness, and that is how she approaches love and dating. She's looking for true love and a life filled with everyday magic.

She'll be deciding whether you can be woven into the tapestry of her life. It has to feel organic while making practical sense in the day-to-day. So the bottom line here is to be alert to how she wants to live and take note of her longings. Surprise her with a retreat to a natural refuge, for a day or a weekend, if she's talked of feeling unnaturally disconnected.

She's a mutable sign, so she's flexible with date plans, but choose places that let her unwind, rather than get more energetically bunched up. That way, you begin to know the real her, rather than the one that's a response to our stress-filled world.