How to Attract a Scorpio Woman

She appreciates mystery, discretion, respect, and support

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Scorpio females are veiled in mystery and keep a shrewd eye on anyone who enters their orbit. They read deeply into your being, so don't pretend to be someone you're not.

The Scorpio sign dances with power and surrender. She will test your strength and size you up as a potential lover. She has an intense urge to merge, yet wants to be sure of what she's doing. 

Scorpio season is when you feel pulled into unseen worlds. She'll be attracted by unsolved mysteries, such as discovering the shadowy terrain of your psyche.

She won't stick around long if you play up your insecurities. She wants to discover who you are, not have it handed to her on a platter. She's drawn to men with determination, ambition, sexual confidence, spirituality, and self-control. Confidence and achievement are aphrodisiacs. Scorpio in love is all-absorbing, intense, and possessive.

Don't Tell All

Revealing your dating history is usually a faux pas. That goes double with Scorpio women. The sun Scorpio woman may be horrified if you spill sexual secrets, a sign of how you'd treat a relationship with her. She's attracted to a discreet man who won't betray her.

On a first date, follow these Scorpio love tips:

  • Keep the conversation neutral but interesting.
  • Tell her about your accomplishments.
  • Wear subtle but musky cologne.
  • Watch her eyes for clues to her interest.
  • Respond to body language and suggestive looks.

Show Respect

The Scorpio woman enjoys playing with her sexual power. Avoid coming on too strong or too soon. Leave space for her desire to grow, intensified with sensual looks and touches. Be a "slow hand" lover and don't act on impulse.

A big issue for Scorpio women is respect. They are all-or-nothing when it comes to giving themselves, so they want to know a man won't bail if passion gets intense. A slow build, where trust is the foundation, is best. Try gestures of devotion, not sentimental or cutesy signals.

Even though Scorpio is a water sign (feelings), there's a definite realism about them. They quickly spot boasters without real-life experience. Often, Scorpio women have a solid sense of their strengths and weaknesses. It might pay to be frank about your own, without falling into self-pity or overconfidence. 

Watch Her Back

A Scorpio woman can be serious and doesn't appreciate teasing when she's wrestling with problems. She responds well to someone who respects her inner needs. If you understand the ebb and flow, you can give her the space she needs to work it out.

Scorpio women are focused do-ers, often with pragmatic views of life. They may see into a situation psychically, but they are grounded in reality. They're attracted to determined and productive men who don't waste their natural talents.

Remain Steady

Scorpio is a fixed sign. Like others in this category (Taurus, Leo, Aquarius), they gravitate to what will be ongoing instead of one-nighters. The Scorpio woman only shows her true vulnerability in a bond of trust.

For a first date, pick someplace with real atmosphere. A secret or exclusive spot, like a speak-easy, gives them the sense of the clandestine that they crave.